Do you advertise when you turn single?

[stepka]

Originally Posted by Mathguy

I know what you mean, I still haven't told my sister that my wife died back in 08....but I've been busy so I'm sure she will understand.

I think that's more telling of your relationship with your sis than any desire to keep from advertising your single status. Are you two estranged?

Anyway, I'm thinking that some people are just more open about their lives in general--if you know their single status quickly then chances are that you know more about their lives in general. I don't see anything wrong with this--it's the way they're made and then others are way private and that's the way they're made too, except that society is more likely to admire the ones who suck it up and keep their mouth shut about their personal life. That can go too far though--I'll never forget when a coworker came in and announced that his wife had just had a baby--he'd worked there for years and was a quiet man but that was taking it too far and a lot of people were really irritated with him for keeping his wife's pregnancy a secret. I wasn't irritated but I was shocked b/c of course I had to tell everyone as soon as I discovered I was pregnant.

[miyu]

Originally Posted by mir86

haha, people did the same thing to me! "hey where's your boyfriend?"...uhhh...long gone. That went on for like 6 months..it got old having to explain.

Yea me too... for years actually... I guess maybe I should have advertised!!!

And thanks to people who responded about why they advertised. I understand a bit better now and agree that it was right for them not to put their life on hold. But the question is, did it work?

Men, are you more prone to asking women out if they told you of their newly available status?

I've actually had a guy do this to me once. He hit me up on some social networking site and said, "Hey let's get together. Oh BTW I'm single now " I thought that was such a cheap shot, not necessarily because he advertised but mostly because I already suspected the guy of being a playa... and I'm a playa hatah... nevermind that he was super handsome and 1000% my type... I still barf in his general direction.

[MattB4]

Originally Posted by miyu

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Men, are you more prone to asking women out if they told you of their newly available status?

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Yes, of course. I would never ask out any lady until I knew they were available. Which can be a problem since most will hide their status. It is like you never say you're unemployed when applying for a job.

[naturesdreams]

I tend to agree that women are more apt to post the "single" status. I've always found that women somehow feel that they aren't complete without a man or partner. I've been recently divorced and can't imagine getting serious too soon. I admit I joined "singles" dating sites but for the purpose of finding someone that shares the same activities I enjoy but have experienced only men with over active imaginations LOL... I am taking myself off these sites and know that I enjoy and embrace my independance ... so maybe that is the answer... discover who we are and what WE want before getting to involved in other relationships too soon.