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Old 01-09-2011, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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A friend found me on FB. Now, he's several years older. He never knew I had a crush on him as a girl. We started talking found out, there is so much in common.

I'm thinking we would become good, if not great friends. Next thing, he started talking dirty. The thought of someone crushin on him as a boy. I'm aroused by that fact childfree. I wondered how did this happen. How did this line of questioning start. We never talked sex or meeting.

I put him back into his lane the friend zone. Ladies, he stopped talking to me. WTH is that about. I actually laughed about it. Kick rocks buddy.
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Old 01-09-2011, 11:51 AM
 
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A friend found me on FB. Now, he's several years older. He never knew I had a crush on him as a girl. We started talking found out, there is so much in common.

I'm thinking we would become good, if not great friends. Next thing, he started talking dirty. The thought of someone crushin on him as a boy. I'm aroused by that fact childfree. I wondered how did this happen. How did this line of questioning start. We never talked sex or meeting.

I put him back into his lane the friend zone. Ladies, he stopped talking to me. WTH is that about. I actually laughed about it. Kick rocks buddy.
What were you thinking? It sounds like you finally had a chance with him, and you blew it. You were interested in him when you were younger, and now you had a chance with him. Better late than never.
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Old 01-09-2011, 11:54 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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What were you thinking? It sounds like you finally had a chance with him, and you blew it. You were interested in him when you were younger, and now you had a chance with him. Better late than never.
That would've been nice, but he had one flaw. His wife.

We live in different states as well.
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Old 01-09-2011, 12:43 PM
 
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The in between zone seems to happen when there is attraction, but something is holding one or both people back from taking action. It's also a comfortable place to be. It's nice having a crush and keeping it there, so it's always "perfect".
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Old 01-09-2011, 02:54 PM
 
Location: NYC
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The in between zone seems to happen when there is attraction, but something is holding one or both people back from taking action. It's also a comfortable place to be. It's nice having a crush and keeping it there, so it's always "perfect".
I'm happy to hear that because that's where I am now. Mad crush but keeping things at a physical and emotional distance. I don't want to get my hopes up.
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Old 01-09-2011, 03:08 PM
 
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I'm happy to hear that because that's where I am now. Mad crush but keeping things at a physical and emotional distance. I don't want to get my hopes up.
I realized that I am bad at dating. A lot of people are on their best behaviour for the first few dates. But for me, official dates, bring out a weird side of my personality. Then there is the wondering if I did something wrong or analyzing or wondering if I should call or text or why haven't they called. None of this exist in the in between zone. I'm laid back. I don't sweat that they haven't contacted me in 3 days. We hang out and it's fun. I love the in between zone. I've been in an in between zone with a new girl for a few weeks and am going to drag it out for a couple months more. With how bad things have gotten with official dating recently, I like it this way.
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Old 01-09-2011, 03:13 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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I realized that I am bad at dating. A lot of people are on their best behaviour for the first few dates. But for me, official dates, bring out a weird side of my personality. Then there is the wondering if I did something wrong or analyzing or wondering if I should call or text or why haven't they called. None of this exist in the in between zone. I'm laid back. I don't sweat that they haven't contacted me in 3 days. We hang out and it's fun. I love the in between zone. I've been in an in between zone with a new girl for a few weeks and am going to drag it out for a couple months more. With how bad things have gotten with official dating recently, I like it this way.
Man, this is so true.

I have a guy friend in this zone, not that I put him there, that's just where we've been w/ eachother for...5yrs! (he moved)
But now he's talking about visiting and I'm getting nerrrvous!
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Old 01-09-2011, 07:38 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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A friend of mine and I have been in this so-called "in-between zone" for almost five years now. Never had sex, date who we want, and still have an affection for one another that's lovely. I always see him as a potential future significant other, but we're nothing more than friends now and I never talk sexually or flirtatiously with him. That would be crossing the line and breaking the code.
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Old 01-09-2011, 07:43 PM
 
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I've learned that it's not a good thing to get your hopes up. But this thread made me get my hopes up. Maybe I can salvage my dating life after all.
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Old 01-09-2011, 07:54 PM
 
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