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Old 01-09-2011, 08:10 PM
 
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The longest lasting, happiest romantic relationships are those between 'best friends'. Anyone worried about being 'friend-zoned' isn't looking for a real relationship, they just wanna get laid. Which is fine if that's all you want, but if you want real love, be willing - even eager - to be a friend first.
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Old 01-09-2011, 10:19 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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I can just see Zenith Media being contacted to run the ad campaign for this...

"Zone 3 - All of the Drawbacks, None of the Benefits!"

Granted, non-action is always a legitimate choice, but it comes with a price - stasis. You don't move forward and you don't move back. You don't get a real relationship, nor do you get kicked out on your butt so you can get on with your life.

The only ending I can envision is that even if you are able to maintain that delicate balance for an extended time, like an auto-erotic asphyxiation fetishist one day the chair will slip...
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Old 01-09-2011, 10:30 PM
 
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I can just see Zenith Media being contacted to run the ad campaign for this...

"Zone 3 - All of the Drawbacks, None of the Benefits!"

Granted, non-action is always a legitimate choice, but it comes with a price - stasis. You don't move forward and you don't move back. You don't get a real relationship, nor do you get kicked out on your butt so you can get on with your life.

The only ending I can envision is that even if you are able to maintain that delicate balance for an extended time, like an auto-erotic asphyxiation fetishist one day the chair will slip...
You can still date other people while being in zone 3. It's just a friend who you have a crush on.
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Old 01-10-2011, 06:19 AM
 
Location: NYC
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The only ending I can envision is that even if you are able to maintain that delicate balance for an extended time, like an auto-erotic asphyxiation fetishist, one day the chair will slip...
That's funny!

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You can still date other people while being in zone 3. It's just a friend who you have a crush on.
I think you're both right, which is why I'm trying to find other ppl to date but it isn't happening as fast as I'd like. After 8+ years with one person, I'm a dating dummy

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Old 01-10-2011, 10:39 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I've been in an in between zone with a new girl for a few weeks and am going to drag it out for a couple months more. With how bad things have gotten with official dating recently, I like it this way.
I gotta ask ... A couple of months is a long time to be held in suspension with all kinds of flirting and teasing going on. What's her situation? Are you really interested? Scared to make a move? Reluctant about commitment? Stringing her along? What's the deal McNeil???
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Old 01-10-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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To me, "friend zone" is where the "no, never" folks go. If you are in the friend zone, you're never getting out. Others seem to have differing opinions, though. But the entrance to MY friend zone is strictly one-way.
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Old 01-10-2011, 11:02 AM
 
Location: NYC
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To me, "friend zone" is where the "no, never" folks go. If you are in the friend zone, you're never getting out. Others seem to have differing opinions, though. But the entrance to MY friend zone is strictly one-way.
Yeah, I agree but the OP has hypothesized the "in between zone" and it sounds like more of a holding place -- somewhere you can leave if the situation is right.
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Old 01-10-2011, 11:07 AM
 
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To me, "friend zone" is where the "no, never" folks go. If you are in the friend zone, you're never getting out. Others seem to have differing opinions, though. But the entrance to MY friend zone is strictly one-way.
Different people have different decision making processes. I am more open in my decisions, so I have more maybes. I also take a long time to decide sometimes.
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Old 01-10-2011, 11:15 AM
 
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I gotta ask ... A couple of months is a long time to be held in suspension with all kinds of flirting and teasing going on. What's her situation? Are you really interested? Scared to make a move? Reluctant about commitment? Stringing her along? What's the deal McNeil???


When I first met her I was neutral. I got a long with her easily. She's outgoing, so it's been easy to keep in contact. Also the last few dating experieces didn't go well, so I'm holding back and observing or just going with the flow. She's growing on me, so yes I am attracted. I don't want to get my hopes up. I'm also not looking for a relationship due to having other stuff going on, but I may in a few months.
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Old 01-10-2011, 11:22 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Different people have different decision making processes. I am more open in my decisions, so I have more maybes. I also take a long time to decide sometimes.
I have maybes too. I was responding more to the people who said that lovers should be friends first. That's fine, but not every friend has the potential to be a lover.

Now and then someone will ask if it's true that women know within seconds whether she will sleep with a man. My response is that's false ... and backward. A woman usually knows within seconds whether she will NOT sleep with a man. That's different. A maybe can be a yes or a no, so I agree with you there. But a no is a no.
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