Does a good marriage take lots of hard work? (movies, long-term, man)

[funymann]

Every sea has it's storms.

It's not always smooth sailing.

[andreaspercheron]

Every relationship takes different components to make it work. Some are very easy, some take a little more thought. But eventually yes and at some point you do need to put some level of effort into maintaining a healthy relationship BUT, if you're in one where you are constantly butting heads, not seeing eye to eye, etc.. then sometimes you just need to know when to quit.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by akck

I completely agree with you, but they were the ones who thought they were compatible.

I completely got the point you were making

Sometimes people think if they aren't fighting than the other person must be "okay".

But there are times when what is not being said or fought about is the straw that breaks the camels back over the long haul.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by funymann

Every sea has it's storms.

It's not always smooth sailing.

That's why I asked the OP how long she's been married - could be she's not had to weather any real storms in her marriage yet so she can't really appreciate the work involved to keep a marriage a happy one.

[That's my question]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

How long have you been married?

We have been together for twenty years and married for 17.

Yes there is some work in all marriages but in ours very little. We just make it look easy.

[the old man]

yes it takes work-- we were married for 32 yrs and we worked on our marriage everyday-- thats why were very happily married

[Magritte25]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

How long have you been married?

LOLOL That is the *first* question that popped in my head during reading the OP.

[Magritte25]

To answer the question:

Yes, I do think having a good marriage requires hard work. My husband and I share many of the same beliefs, values and goals. However, getting to these destinations is another story. We each have our own ideas how best to work towards a goal or the way to foster certain beliefs in our family structure. We have worked hard on communicating effectively with each other.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by That's my question

We have been together for twenty years and married for 17.

Yes there is some work in all marriages but in ours very little. We just make it look easy.

hmmmm...wouldn't just "making it look easy" be a facade - a fake front? Many people can and do make things look other than they really are you know. Just sayin'...

[Braunwyn]

My husband works very hard at our marriage and it's good.