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The "Jump my bones" approach does not work with him.
You have to find out if he's interested in having sex with you.
He doesn't sound like he's "red blooded" at all, maybe he needs Viagra, he's 50, there may be some physical issues and he doesn't know how to break it to you.
Sounds to me like ED issues - maybe he's scared he won't be able to 'perform'; if he feels you're pushing him into it, his performance anxiety could worsen. Maybe he knows he can't and doesn't feel ready to talk to you about it. Or - even - he has an STD.
I agree with LuckyGem - you need to find out. But maybe after only 6 weeks dating, you also need to give him a little more time.
The problem is, I think he's terrified to touch me, sexually. While I don't mind taking things a bit slow, I think after 6 weeks, I might want to find out what 'that' is like with him? Agree?
Disagree. Sounds like he is his own man. Is he Catholic perhaps? Or just a gentleman. Take a step back. If the situations were reversed that is the least you would expect from him.
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on the other hand, there are other things that bother me about him as well...
Ok you've convinced me. I don't think this first guy is right for you and you know it. Give guy number 2 a chance...
I think the behavior of the first guy on NYE sounds a little strange. Of course none of us know this guy and he might be a really decent man but I agree with your thoughts that after a few weeks you're probably at a point when you need to decide if this is going to work. I think I'd see how it works out with the second guy.
Am I wrong to halt the relationship with the first guy due to the fact that I think he's afraid to touch me? It seems petty of me on one hand, but on the other hand, there are other things that bother me about him as well, so maybe it's just as well, to move on completely. Enough is enough?
Yep, enough is enough... the window of opportunity has passed... time to move on!
Sounds to me like ED issues - maybe he's scared he won't be able to 'perform'; if he feels you're pushing him into it, his performance anxiety could worsen. Maybe he knows he can't and doesn't feel ready to talk to you about it. Or - even - he has an STD.
I agree with LuckyGem - you need to find out. But maybe after only 6 weeks dating, you also need to give him a little more time.
Good point. For all we know the guy had a herpes outbreak and as such is only intimate when he's in a relationship serious enough for him to fess up.
but really - getting back to the OP - why do you care? If you aren't even interested in him, why don't you just shrug and move on? Were your feeling hurt when you stripped off your clothes and he didn't go for it? (Because that's understandable.)
Go rent some gay porn and invite him over to watch it with you. If he "rises to the occasion" you have your answer.
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