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We all make mistakes, but I still can't believe you fell for that unmistakable psycho... Anyway, it's water under the bridge now and you made it out of it.
I'm happy for you, Robyn.
Thanks, Sierra. Looking back right now I knew he was strange, but to me, it was a bit intriguing. I was a woman who had really only been in one relationship her whole life, and it was a constraining one at that. We were hs sweethearts, so I was with no one else. I had one other bf before him. I was plopped right into a motherly and wifely role around the age of 17. I had our first child at 20, second at 22. I took care of my father until his passing and then did the same with my mother 5 years later.
Then here comes this other person who speaks several languages, travels, all of that From the city..NY. It was like he was introducing me to things I had no idea of before then. He swept me off my feet.
But that was his intention. No, I didn't see it. IN the end it was bad. It still is a little bad, and for a great little while, I was fearful of my life.
I look back and he had control of me. The first time he lost control was when he punched me in the face. I did go back after that. He promised he would change and because I loved him, I believed him.
It was good for a few days, but that is all.
Now that is all behind me and I am walking forward. I am happy, I am healthy. I had not been healthy in some time.
Thanks, Sierra. Looking back right now I knew he was strange, but to me, it was a bit intriguing. I was a woman who had really only been in one relationship her whole life, and it was a constraining one at that. We were hs sweethearts, so I was with no one else. I had one other bf before him. I was plopped right into a motherly and wifely role around the age of 17. I had our first child at 20, second at 22. I took care of my father until his passing and then did the same with my mother 5 years later.
Then here comes this other person who speaks several languages, travels, all of that From the city..NY. It was like he was introducing me to things I had no idea of before then. He swept me off my feet.
I can see how that happened now... This type thrives on beautiful women at vulnerable times in their lives, and you were also inexperienced to boot.
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I am happy, I am healthy. I had not been healthy in some time.
I can see how that happened now... This type thrives on beautiful women at vulnerable times in their lives, and you were also inexperienced to boot.
Good for you!
Yep! Oh well. Chalking it all up to experience. I do believe all the turns I made in life, whether they be the right ones or the wrong ones led me to where I am today. Where I am today is where I was meant to be.
The man I am with was there for me as a friend through very much of this... He was best friend through thick and thin.
I hope so, Robyn... I hope so... but the savior types can be dangerous, too... Again, you were not at a good place in your life when you met him!
I know somebody who was "saved" from an abusive marriage by her current husband. He's extremely controlling!
He is not a savior. He is someone not much different than myself. Someone who has had it rough in life and relationships and wants happiness.
We were friends for quite some time before all of these feelings. He is not in the least bit controlling....
Just loves me. Doesn't care what I do. Go to work, go to school.. stay at home. He just wants my happiness, as I do his.
Together we are happy. Oh there have been a few rough patches. We are not perfect. But we work on it. We work through it. Together we work through it.
When we met it felt like we had none each other forever, but were some reason apart. Felt like we came back together. I can look in his eyes and in his smile and it is so obvious how much he loves me.
I visited with his grandmother for a few hours today, she is such a sweetie.
Both of our families, I believe were worried, but all they needed to do is see us together and they knew.
Dinner was great. We talked about our days, respectively. Cleaned the kitchen together and then I cut his hair for him as he knelt on the floor...
It feels really good to be in a normal relationship. Who knows what normal is, really, but this feels right. It feels like how it is supposed to be.
I thought my parents had a normal relationship but who was I to know? It is what I grew up seeing. As much as I loved my parents, I look back and all they did was argue. My mother always standing over the sink crying. My dad belittling her. Then him trying to be nice and have her stop crying.
This was my life with Jim and I thought it was normal. I repeated my parents life for 17 years thinking it was ok. It was never ok. I will always love my mother and I will always love my father, God rest both of their souls, but it was not normal.
I do believe it took me into the type of life I lead for so long.
What I have now..is like none other to me..
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