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Online dating isn't an overnight solution, I found it can take time to find the right person, even when you give up hope.
The key is to identify what YOU are looking for in someone and then target those types of girls. It can be hard going off just a profile and you'll have to weed through some you don't fit well with, but when you do find her it'll make all the difference in your life.
I dated 30+ women in a year and a half and it wasn't until I started being more choosy, targeting certain traits, and taking the time to get to know them more before meeting in person...then did I finally meet a great girl. But it took a long time, a lot of self realization, and a lot of struggle.
Yeah, I'm seeing someone right now, though a couple things on her end and an aversion to communicating about them have made me start to lose interest in the relationship... so I'll likely be on the lookout again soon
I just made one a few days ago but I don't have a picture up. No one ever replies to my messages, I guess if I did put up a pic it would make a huge difference. Try putting up a pic if it doesn't bother you, I just personally am not keen about putting myself all out there like that.
You're exactly right--I never reply to someone w/o a picture. I may be over-generalizing but it tells me that he has something to hide, like a wedding ring. Or he doesn't want anyone he knows to see him on there, but he doesn't mind if I put myself out there and risk getting seen. I also don't respond to those who didn't write anything in their profile or who left the "Do you smoke?" line blank. That tells me that he probably does. When I do a match search, I confine my search to profiles that only have pictures so if there is no pic, I won't ever even read your profile. I guess that sounds harsh, but I've been burned before. I don't have to only date handsome men--if he has a pleasant face and smile, and I like everything else about him, then I will respond to him or write him, but I must say that I've not found OKC to be much help either. Do older women have more problems trying to OL date?
You're exactly right--I never reply to someone w/o a picture. I may be over-generalizing but it tells me that he has something to hide, like a wedding ring. Or he doesn't want anyone he knows to see him on there, but he doesn't mind if I put myself out there and risk getting seen. I also don't respond to those who didn't write anything in their profile or who left the "Do you smoke?" line blank. That tells me that he probably does. When I do a match search, I confine my search to profiles that only have pictures so if there is no pic, I won't ever even read your profile. I guess that sounds harsh, but I've been burned before. I don't have to only date handsome men--if he has a pleasant face and smile, and I like everything else about him, then I will respond to him or write him, but I must say that I've not found OKC to be much help either. Do older women have more problems trying to OL date?
I do offer to send them a pic on e-mail I just have a feeling someone I know could find me on there lol. What exactly is giving you problems are you not getting messages or something? I think a good portion of the guys on there are horn dogs anyway
You're exactly right--I never reply to someone w/o a picture. I may be over-generalizing but it tells me that he has something to hide, like a wedding ring. Or he doesn't want anyone he knows to see him on there, but he doesn't mind if I put myself out there and risk getting seen. I also don't respond to those who didn't write anything in their profile or who left the "Do you smoke?" line blank. That tells me that he probably does. When I do a match search, I confine my search to profiles that only have pictures so if there is no pic, I won't ever even read your profile. I guess that sounds harsh, but I've been burned before. I don't have to only date handsome men--if he has a pleasant face and smile, and I like everything else about him, then I will respond to him or write him, but I must say that I've not found OKC to be much help either. Do older women have more problems trying to OL date?
I set up an OK Cupid account back in 2006...I was a member of Match at the time, and I think I had just broken up with a guy (that I had met on Match), and wanted to look somewhere else other than match. I don't recall ever finding anything there worth staying around for very long. I went back to match, and started dating someone else. I am "older", and I've not had any problems. But I'm pretty patient, and very persistent. I'm no longer online though...in a relationship for over a year now.
I do offer to send them a pic on e-mail I just have a feeling someone I know could find me on there lol. What exactly is giving you problems are you not getting messages or something? I think a good portion of the guys on there are horn dogs anyway
Yes, it's true--I don't get many messages. People on here are always talking about how women get tons of mail everyday and I certainly don't. I just read this article on cupid, so now I'm more confused than ever. I'm either quite ugly or so universally cute that men are afraid to bother, lol. The Mathematics Of Beauty « OkTrends
Give it a read though--it's very interesting. Oh, and don't worry about me--I can spot a horndog from a mile away.
As for anyone spotting you--well I'm taking that chance too aren't I? Why is it ok for me to take that chance but not you? So many people OL date these days that there's no shame in it and I know enough people who've met their SO online that it's a legit way to date.
I'm either quite ugly or so universally cute that men are afraid to bother, lol. The Mathematics Of Beauty « OkTrends
Give it a read though--it's very interesting.
Well, I can't even figure how somebody decided to explain correlation between looks and number of messages. Nobody knows what their personalities are and what they wrote and how.
However, I can see why the girl in the first pair discussed is more interesting at first sight. She looks mysterious, exotic, flirty, unique, and enticing, whereas the other girl, while pretty (symmetric features) is just a girl-next-door type. There's just nothing special about her to catch your eye.
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Ok cupid is a bit different from most, and I've actually had more success chatting to women on there online. Just less success meeting anyone from there.
Yes, it's true--I don't get many messages. People on here are always talking about how women get tons of mail everyday and I certainly don't. I just read this article on cupid, so now I'm more confused than ever. I'm either quite ugly or so universally cute that men are afraid to bother, lol. The Mathematics Of Beauty « OkTrends
Give it a read though--it's very interesting. Oh, and don't worry about me--I can spot a horndog from a mile away.
As for anyone spotting you--well I'm taking that chance too aren't I? Why is it ok for me to take that chance but not you? So many people OL date these days that there's no shame in it and I know enough people who've met their SO online that it's a legit way to date.
Yep. People that are still of the mind that this is somehow a useless, desperate, pitiful, or otherwise unsavory method of meeting people, simply have their fingers in their ears and a blindfold on.
some ppl might seem like theyve been there forever cuz they dont take it too seriously. i think my account is 3 years old, but i message like 2 girls every 6 months cuz i find most profiles boring and rarely see anyone that strikes me as interesting. much easier to meet ppl in person imho.
i do look active because i log in once a week to erase all the msgs fattys have sent me over hte week
some ppl might seem like theyve been there forever cuz they dont take it too seriously. i think my account is 3 years old, but i message like 2 girls every 6 months cuz i find most profiles boring and rarely see anyone that strikes me as interesting. much easier to meet ppl in person imho.
i do look active because i log in once a week to erase all the msgs fattys have sent me over hte week
+2; that also almost perfectly describes my own exp. with OKC.
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People that are still of the mind that this is somehow a useless, desperate, pitiful, or otherwise unsavory method of meeting people, simply have their fingers in their ears and a blindfold on. 
