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I think 12 and 10 are too young to be "dating" in the first place. But yes - a 19 year old woman would be in college or working and it would be off to be dating a high school sophmore.
It's not the age gap so much as life experience gap.
Exactly!
The age difference is just more apparent when people are younger, less when people become older. (ex. 3 yr age difference)
We didn't exactly date. It was a 5th grade relationship. It lasted a month and a half. We didn't do much except talk on the phone (and I found out my mom and brother put me on speaker phone to listen). She didn't know anything unusual for a 12 year old. But the typical 12 year old girl is way more emotionally mature than a 10 year old boy.
Didn't you say that she was a little slow, though? She was held back in school. So she was not a typical 12-year-old girl.
Holy crap, if she was not smart then and still not now, she's certainly not emotionally mature either. Could it be that she is somewhat slow and that's why she is going out with younger boys?
And for someone that just talked on the phone for a month and a half, you've sure making a BIG deal over this small, insignificant event in your life.
And for your mother to listen in on your conversation!?!?! She needs to back off and give you space. Anyway that's another issue of many with you.
You can be dumb and also emotionally mature. Intelligence and emotional maturity are 2 different things.
Maybe emotionally mature is the wrong phrase. I can't think of the right phrase. But what I'm trying to say is a 12 year old girl is more advanced than a 10 year old boy in some ways, regardless of intelligence. The fact that she was able to confuse me should tell you something.
I agree my mom shouldn't do that. I think that's one of the reasons I never dated in high school. Because I didn't trust my family to stay out of it.
You can be dumb and also emotionally mature. Intelligence and emotional maturity are 2 different things.
Maybe emotionally mature is the wrong phrase. I can't think of the right phrase. But what I'm trying to say is a 12 year old girl is more advanced than a 10 year old boy in some ways, regardless of intelligence. The fact that she was able to confuse me should tell you something.
I agree my mom shouldn't do that. I think that's one of the reasons I never dated in high school. Because I didn't trust my family to stay out of it.
Believe me, I've never met anyone that has low intelligence to have a high maturity level. Usually they have low maturity levels to go with their intelligence.
I think you just need to move on in life and forget about this small event in your life.
You're now a 19 y.o. college boy that needs to stop thinking about the past and live right now in the future. Don't dwell on the same stuff. It'll hold you back.
You ask if the girl was a pedophile because she had a boyfriend who was younger, and my opinion is she was not. If all you ever did with her is talk on the phone, how could this be any different than just having a friend who is younger? Maybe she thought you were cool cause you were smarter. Whatever the case, if all you guys did at 10 and 12 is chat, there is nothing to consider about her. Nothing at all. Since she is dating a younger boy than herself at this current age, there is probably a weird vibe, but if the boy is sexually experienced and she thinks he is cute, then her logic is simply failing in considering that she is more emotionally mature than he is . Like you said, she might be too dumb to understand that he is less emotionally mature than her. And is just looking at the outside package.
The writing is clearly different. One is arrogant, the other writes like a 12 yr old. One never mentions his family and the other is quite clearly dependent upon his mommy. One focuses on himself, his wants, his needs; the other focuses on what's wrong with others - and that his mother agrees. Definitely not the same.
This happened when I was 10. I'm 19 now. Do you think I've been bitter for this entire time? Of course not. In the past, I was hopeful that I would get a girlfriend. But I kept getting my hopes up for nothing.
While you're getting your hopes up for a gf. Are you learning a skill, a talent, anything? What exactly are you doing to get a gf? Or are you just sitting around wishing for a gf?
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