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We've heard and read about the 'bro code' which was probably started by some dude with serious esteem issues.
Do women have/use a similar code amongst themselves? Have you ever trumped down the "girl code" card?
There is no "girl code". And any "bro-code" gets tossed as boys grow into men...although sometimes that takes awhile.
The exact of opposite applies in my social circle.
To me, it means that if your buddies invite you to golfing and then a girl wants to go out (not your girlfriend mind you) or maybe wants a booty call, your buddies take precedence over you. Or, if you've arranged to meet your buddies at a certain time, don't show up late cos you were with some chick. I've had a friend violate that plenty of times and it's pretty damn annoying, not to mention it sends the message he'd rather have a cheap lay than hang out with his friends and it's not like he's with some Playboy model either.
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Originally Posted by TabulaRasa
I can think of about a million instances where people of either gender follow no such code. People will pursue whatever they feel is most important. To a 14-year old girl, getting a guy's attention is going to FAR outweigh hanging out with friends.
You don't think a 14 year old girl follows a certain unwritten, perhaps subconscious set of rules?
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so under the code, any girl a single man dates is a ho? Or is it only hos that come after bros, while respectable women come before bros?
"Ho" is a derogatory term and if someone can come up with a term like "bros before hoes" then I invite them to. I'm just using what I've got to work with.
So you're telling me that in your circle of friends, there's no set of unwritten, subconscious rules that you all follow?
For instance, let's say you've got Friend A and Friend B. Friend A and Friend B are very close friends, and Friend A is seeing a guy. Then, one day, Friend A breaks things off with the guy. A day later, Friend B has a sexual encounter with said guy.
Would you not find that somewhat... wrong? And if not, what if you were Friend A?
You don't think a 14 year old girl follows a certain unwritten, perhaps subconscious set of rules?
Nope. I've been a 14-year old girl, and work with kids in that age group of either gender. Attention from the opposite sex (assuming that's where your attraction lies) is generally of PARAMOUNT importance at that stage of emotional and social development. While there may be some outliers who have either developed beyond that point by that age, or who are a bit underdeveloped for that age, yeah, most 14-year old girls, if faced with choosing between spending time with a boy who might be interested and a group of girlfriends, will choose the boy who might be interested.
So you're telling me that in your circle of friends, there's no set of unwritten, subconscious rules that you all follow?
Certainly not. Never has been. You need to learn that it's best to think for oneself. Stop assuming that every silly book or internet article was written for anything other than to raise eyebrows and make a few $$ for the author.
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For instance, let's say you've got Friend A and Friend B. Friend A and Friend B are very close friends, and Friend A is seeing a guy. Then, one day, Friend A breaks things off with the guy. A day later, Friend B has a sexual encounter with said guy.
Would you not find that somewhat... wrong? And if not, what if you were Friend A?
What does that situation have to do with anything? There is no general "code" that women follow...that is specific to women. Men can be have totally different moral values than other men...as can women.
Other than "don't dick over your friends" which should go without saying among grown-ups of all stripes. It's the Golden Rule--there's a reason why it's a classic.
Yes. I think observing the golden rule and basic manners is more appropriate than saying "bros before hos" or the reverse (which, yes, are very crude but does not bother me in certain context). Like fleetie says, the golden rule is a classic.
Anyone immature enough to follow a "code" when dating will spend a lonely life, unless we're talking about 14 year old kids.
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