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Old 01-17-2011, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Hudson County, NJ
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What are your thoughts on ex's, flings, and current partner. Considering they did not know the person before they met through you.

My situation is a bit long and complicated, but lets say when they met through me (no I didn't introduce them) it was along the lines of - "you're new girlfriend is a ***** and i know people to back that up", and her telling my girlfriend that I broke her heart, I'm an *******, and I use girls (all generally not true) and this was basically a fling that she ruined herself due to her bad choices and drugs.

I now basically have them both getting really drunk and being best friends and making all these plans together. It feels disrespectful for me that my girl would want to hang out with someone that talked all this crap about myself, and her as well. To get into it further, why be friends with a alcoholic, drug addict, and especially when gf has a history of drugs as well. I probably sound halfway retarded to still even be with her.

How do you feel about this in general and comment on mine if you'd like
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:33 AM
 
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I probably sound halfway retarded to still even be with her.
No, not halfway...all the way.
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:40 AM
 
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In your situation, I think it's the alcohol talking, not the women themselves.

Unless children from a past marriage made it necessary, I wouldn't want to know my exes new girlfriends or wives.

I presently work with a woman who received an email from an old boyfriend's new woman. This woman I work with was aghast. She hadn't seen the man in a couple of years - the guy lived in another state. She hadn't even talked to him on the phone recently.

It was as if this woman had gone through his email contacts and was sending out feelers to all previous women he had dated. The question in her mind was "WHY now?"
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:40 AM
 
Location: Hudson County, NJ
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No, not halfway...all the way.

Thanks, thats actually what I probably need to hear right now so I can do what is right for me
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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It is strange she would be friends with this woman when she bad mouthed the both of you. But maybe she is taking the "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" approach? At least it means your girlfriend is not the crazy jealous type and wants your exes to drop of the face of the earth.

Have you talked to her about it? Told her how you feel about it? Essentially, I don't think the fact that this woman is your ex has much to do with it - it comes down to the fact that she bad mouthed you and your girlfriend and yet your girlfriend is now best friends with her... that could be anyone, not necessarily an ex. If someone bad mouthed me, I would feel a little unsupported if my husband became best friends with that person. I don't expect him to hate everyone I don't get along with but to practically become best friends would sting a bit.
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:44 AM
 
Location: in your dreams
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They sound like lesbians just waiting to happen.
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Old 01-17-2011, 11:11 AM
 
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Last edited by Small_Feather; 01-17-2011 at 11:12 AM.. Reason: dumb question
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:21 PM
 
Location: The State Line
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In your situation, I think it's the alcohol talking, not the women themselves.

Unless children from a past marriage made it necessary, I wouldn't want to know my exes new girlfriends or wives.

I presently work with a woman who received an email from an old boyfriend's new woman. This woman I work with was aghast. She hadn't seen the man in a couple of years - the guy lived in another state. She hadn't even talked to him on the phone recently.

It was as if this woman had gone through his email contacts and was sending out feelers to all previous women he had dated. The question in her mind was "WHY now?"
...Seems like "Little Black Book" without the Palm Pilot...
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:27 PM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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What are your thoughts on ex's, flings, and current partner. Considering they did not know the person before they met through you.

My situation is a bit long and complicated, but lets say when they met through me (no I didn't introduce them) it was along the lines of - "you're new girlfriend is a ***** and i know people to back that up", and her telling my girlfriend that I broke her heart, I'm an *******, and I use girls (all generally not true) and this was basically a fling that she ruined herself due to her bad choices and drugs.

I now basically have them both getting really drunk and being best friends and making all these plans together. It feels disrespectful for me that my girl would want to hang out with someone that talked all this crap about myself, and her as well. To get into it further, why be friends with a alcoholic, drug addict, and especially when gf has a history of drugs as well. I probably sound halfway retarded to still even be with her.

How do you feel about this in general and comment on mine if you'd like
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Old 01-17-2011, 09:30 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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LMAO! Didn't this poor sch*muck notice the collection beforehand?!
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