My female friend said that girls like to start out as friends first
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Several of my friends were sitting around chatting, and then the topic of relationships came up. One of my female friends remarked that girls like it when you start out as friends first and then go into a relationship. How much truth is to this statement? Is it something that varies from girl to girl? Is it something that a majority of girls agree with?
I just ask because, well, I'm not the most confident person and have only asked out friends in the past. Even when I thought that something was there, some sort of spark, it didn't work out. The girl invariably doesn't feel the same way. Maybe it's because I'm just really bad at reading signals. Maybe it's because I don't know how to make myself look attractive to girls (although, I just act as myself).
Friendship first is most ideal, because trust is established, and it's more than just the physical.
No way, unless you want to be the shoulder she cries on without getting laid.
I am not convinced of this at all. Not just some but ALL the girls I have ever been with - be it a one night stand or a longer relationship - have started out as friends first - some of them for quite some time.
Further I think it is a worrying undertone in your post that we should only be there for someone - to lend them our shoulder as it were - if there is some promose of sexual reward at the end of it. Though it would not be the first post you have made where you indicate you see women as nothing more than sexual conquests - to be dropped or disregarded if said agenda appears to be going nowhere.
Several of my friends were sitting around chatting, and then the topic of relationships came up. One of my female friends remarked that girls like it when you start out as friends first and then go into a relationship. How much truth is to this statement? Is it something that varies from girl to girl? Is it something that a majority of girls agree with?
I just ask because, well, I'm not the most confident person and have only asked out friends in the past. Even when I thought that something was there, some sort of spark, it didn't work out. The girl invariably doesn't feel the same way. Maybe it's because I'm just really bad at reading signals. Maybe it's because I don't know how to make myself look attractive to girls (although, I just act as myself).
Starting out as friends first sounds like a great idea, but it often fails in practice. Single, desirable women are always being chased by lots of guys. If a guy take it too slow, if he tries to be friends first, he will usually just get knocked aside by some other guy who is more aggressive.
I have never been friends first with a guy and then later dated him. If he is friend material he will likely stay that way. The guys I have dated I met in one way or another and one of us asked the other out and we began dating right from the start.
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