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the 1st thing i thought was a lack of confidence and then you brought it up so there might be something to it. are you asking out girls that are out of your league? also don't try using corny lines and stuff, just plain old ask em out to dinner or a movie.
Hmm, no. I honestly don't think these girls are out of my league. And I do avoid corny lines. I just straight up ask.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
Do yourself a favor...ask your closest friend to be brutally honest with you and tell you what THEY see when they look at you.
I know you said you don't feel like you are putting out a vibe of no self confidence, but that may not be true okay? Let someone who knows you well help you with this
Oh, and some great romances do start out as friendships, but not all - not even most.
Should I do this with my closest female friend? Or closest friend in general?
Definitely your closest friend you trust to tell you the honest truth
Okay. Unfortunately I have a hard time of actually talking to my friends about things like this. I know she'll be supportive and honest, but I'll have to find a way to force myself to bring it up.
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What is out of your league? I just am curious?
How exactly would I quantify/qualify this? I doubt I'm great looking. It's hard for me to evaluate myself, but if I had to guess, average or slightly above average?
no body else's opinion of you matters, be an arrogant a**hole who tells mostly lies, and bends the truth in his favor, and I guarantee you things will improve for you.
hmm..that's tricky. I don't date my male friends. Period. I say its better to be well acquainted rather than friends, that way you don't over step the fine line between romance and friendship since as Lovesmountains said..friendship grows later. I completely agree with her!
Also if you say when you ask out female friends that they shoot you down (or however you want to put it), then I will have to say you're reading their signals wrong. Unless she's touching you romantically and acting really flirtatious while giggling all the time, she only sees you as a friend.
no body else's opinion of you matters, be an arrogant a**hole who tells mostly lies, and bends the truth in his favor, and I guarantee you things will improve for you.
I think it varies from individual to individual. Not all people are the same and go with the same pace when it comes to approaching relationships. Now myself, I'm old school. So I don't date strangers. I prefer to already be friends with the person, and that allows for lots of time where we can get comfortable with one another and already know each other before even dating, much less having a relationship. We would already know how we click together.
no body else's opinion of you matters, be an arrogant a**hole who tells mostly lies, and bends the truth in his favor, and I guarantee you things will improve for you.
Maybe I don't want to be a complete jerk...
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hmm..that's tricky. I don't date my male friends. Period. I say its better to be well acquainted rather than friends, that way you don't over step the fine line between romance and friendship since as Lovesmountains said..friendship grows later. I completely agree with her!
Also if you say when you ask out female friends that they shoot you down (or however you want to put it), then I will have to say you're reading their signals wrong. Unless she's touching you romantically and acting really flirtatious while giggling all the time, she only sees you as a friend.
Hmm, okay. What does 'romantically' touching mean, for example? I do feel like in some of these instances they have been flirty.
I don't know! I have several girl friends, I'm fairly intelligent, dress well, I'm not bad looking (or so I've heard), and have a good sense of humor... but I've just had zero luck so far.
Here's your own answer about how this approach works in reality! And the reality has nothing to do with what your girl friends and a number of women who will attack my post say.
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