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I've just started dating this guy... it's been what a week or two... and already he's falling. I can see it and sense it and well he's told me too. Thankfully he hasn't said anything crazy like "I love you" but still his emotions seem to be running deep.
Now I'm fresh out of a long relationship and not really looking to jump right back into another... and this new guy knows that but eh I guess when you fall you fall.
Anyways he's wanting more time and saying those sweet nothings and it's feels good but I'm not there yet... you know?
What to do?
Break up with him
Let him find someone who can love him back
Just tell him your not looking for love and if he is your not the one.
He is falling in love with the * idea * of you. He cannot love you because he has not spent enough TIME with you to know if he loves you.
Love is a process and takes time. After you have both weathered many obstacles and learned to be together, then and only then can he start to feel the true feelings of love.
This is a RED FLAG ! Sure he should like you and enjoy you as he gets to know you but if he is RUSHING things, there is a good reason. He may be insecure, abusive, a loser, a loner, a narcisstic, someone that does not want to be alone, someone who has BIG issues ( which you will find out about )
Tell him to SLOW down !
Don't take every offer of every date. Don't take every phone call. Don't let him rush you into bed. Slowwwwwwwwwwwww it down !
Nothing is accomplished in a warp speed relationship except CRASH and BURN !
whatever happened to good 'ol harmless male attention getting and then delving into dating when you're emotionally ready?
I've done the dating before I'm ready and all it did was put me in a position where I somehow led the guy on. Its not fun feeling like a jerk. They say guilt is the most horrible feeling in the world and I believe it! You will feel guilt eventually, on top of the heartbreak you're feeling...just warning you.
That would work on most men. It's just that the usual roles in this case are reversed.
IMO, that is the antithesis, of real romantic love...it would most certainly *not* work on me, as it would only leave me feeling empty and hollow, in my heart...
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 01-25-2011 at 02:32 PM..
Reason: Corrected typo
"Falling in love" is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience.
We fall in love only when we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated.
I emphatically and profoundly disagree, with the bolded above statement. Physical motivation distinguishes family love from spousal love; nothing more. But it is entirely possible to "fall in love", sans mere erotic reasons -- such as when they totally and completely capture your heart, or vice versa.
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 01-25-2011 at 01:54 PM..
Reason: Corrected spelling
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Not every guy is after "tail" first, in wanting to be loved by, or as an ulterior motive for, that special sweetie's heart. C'mon now...
