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Actually I would have been very wary about marrying a man who proposed without a ring or proposal
That's how you feel about it, no problem. You are not the only one.
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Don't care what kind of ring it is, but for me a ring is symbolic of a lot more than just some metal and rocks.
Would a metal band just do it for you without asking for upgrades or to add some value to it?
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As I said in the other thread I would be as wary of a man who didn't propose with a ring as I would of a woman who would only say yes to a man who gave her a huge rock.
That's right. I think there are more important things to marriage than a piece of metal on a woman's finger. It should raise a red flag if a woman pouted because her ring was not as expensive, shiny, big, etc. as her girlfriends' rings or if she is asking for upgrades. Aren't women supposed to be all sentimental about things?
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If no one proposes marriage, I suspect there would be none.
And guess who are the ones who propose marriage . Sure, we can say that we know of a woman who proposed or one of you may say you proposed, still, we're far from saying that women propose to men as much as men propose to women. Come on, women don't even think about buying their guy an engagement ring, how can you imagine women being eager to propose marriage? Those who do are just exceptions. But yeah, they are out there.
I might go along with the idea it was brought up, but I would essentially be buying it for myself.
When I get married I want a simple ring with no embellishments..like one of those tungsten rings. if I were to do an engagement ring I'd make it like one half of a puzzle piece and the actual wedding band would be the other half
And guess who are the ones who propose marriage . Sure, we can say that we know of a woman who proposed or one of you may say you proposed, still, we're far from saying that women propose to men as much as men propose to women. Come on, women don't even think about buying their guy an engagement ring, how can you imagine women being eager to propose marriage? Those who do are just exceptions. But yeah, they are out there.
So what? Who cares? Other than you, that is. Most men, if you ask them, would much rather be the ones doing the proposing. Frankly, if you told women to start doing the proposing, and men to stop...hell, the men would probably be run out of town with proposals.
I don't believe in buying unnecessary things, which is how I view engagement rings. If I ever get married, I will only buy a simple band that is inexpensive.
Is there a difference between a wedding ring and an engagement ring? I thought they were the same thing but people moved them to the other hand when they got married.
Nope, won't wear a wedding ring either. I'll get married when hell freezes over.
Well-said. I'm also getting married when hell freezes over (but in the rare case that hell freezes over, I'm still not getting married). There are a lot of reasons I don't want to get married. But a wedding ring is one of the reasons. I don't wear rings. Besides, females would be less likely to check me out if they noticed a wedding ring. I want the world to know I'm a bachelor.
Now, did you get a ring later or an upgrade as many seem to like if they consider their ring not being "as nice"? There are women who will ask their husband to add more stones/rocks and value to their ring if they feel they got proposed with a ring that didn't have enough sparkle or value.
I don't see the problem with this. So what? Those of us that want it may or may not get it. Just as husbands may or may not get the laundry list of toys on their Christmas lists.
Further, not everything in life is fair. My dh really wanted to get married. My mother really wanted me to get married and his mother wanted us to get married. I probably would have put it off indefinitely if the three of them didn't care so much. But, guess who had the responsibility of planning the wedding? Sure, he wanted all his family there. My mother wanted all our family there (she paid for most of it), but that takes work and it typically falls on the bride whether she's a wedding planner or not. And my going rate is $40/hr, so if I were to tally up the time spent to make the wedding happen, it would have been a pretty penny.
And then there is the one-sidedness if the couple wants to have a family. It's all on the woman. Well, that's not fair at all imo. As far as I'm concerned, until the playing field is evened out in that arena you (general you) have no room to complain about buying a ring for your woman that is willing to put her life at risk to give the two of you a family. /hyperbole
Is there a difference between a wedding ring and an engagement ring? I thought they were the same thing but people moved them to the other hand when they got married.
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