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Old 02-20-2011, 11:12 PM
 
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I would quickly figure out that this was the WRONG kind of guy for me. There are some guys with really loose boundaries. You know the type. They've got all their exes calling them baby and sugar pie on Facebook, all the sexy jokes, they're texting right and left. Their phone buzzes off the hook. Always a flirty girl on the end.

If that works for them, great, but it wouldn't work for me and I don't blame it for not working for you. It's not so much that I mind someone being friends with an ex... some exes can make great platonic friends as long as that's really all they are and they respect the boundaries of the romantic relationship rather than infringing on it... the problem here is more lack of boundaries and being an unapologetic flirt. People who do that often have some sense of lacking that they're trying to fill by all the opposite sex attention from random acquaintances. Trouble is, if they can't get that from their partner, but need it from every pretty girl who walks by under the guise of "friends", I'm not interested.

I have given him a second chance for now... but I find a guy who caters to these disrespectful women a complete turn off...

He hasent talked to her for quite some time, but the other night I had a few girls coming over and he wanted to sit there with his shirt off and was trying so hard to grab everyones attention.. it was embarrasing, I was ashamed of him, and everyone kind of ignored him and he went up stairs by himself for the rest of the night,....

I guess it is just such a turn off that he is obviously insecure, yet high on himself at the same time...

I know some guys think making a girl jealouse might keep them around, but for me it is a turn off, and chases me away...

We will see if he can man up and stop being an embarrassment.

He seems way better, but I am still pretty turned off, even though I love so many other things about him...
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Old 02-21-2011, 02:30 PM
 
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I really want a guys true opinion, like think of your little sister asking you....

If someone was with a new girlfriend, and their ex fling is texting them every day, they still both call each other baby, and say love you and miss you and xo's etc..... But it is not hidden and he says he loves her the same as his two guy roommates etc, because she has been his sisters friend for years, what would you tell her to do????
That doesn't sound normal to me. But then again, what do I really know about this relationship? Most people who don't have kids involved tend to break off clean and rarely or never speak again.
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Old 02-23-2011, 01:12 AM
 
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I think she already won... she got in my head, and because of before, even though she is supposedly ou of the picture, I still have the lingering doubts in the back of my mind whenever there is a late night text at all....
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Old 02-23-2011, 06:37 AM
 
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I think she already won... she got in my head, and because of before, even though she is supposedly ou of the picture, I still have the lingering doubts in the back of my mind whenever there is a late night text at all....
If you have doubts trust your gut.
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Old 02-23-2011, 03:38 PM
 
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While none of my former flings text me, there are two with whom I infrequently correspond with via e-mail. These two women have developed a very cordial and respectful relationship with me, all from a safe distance.

To our good fortune, we are all now in committed relationships. The few times we communicate, it's common to share about the trivialities of our existing relationships. It's nice to get their feminine feedback. I assume they likewise appreciate my input when it's requested.

So, while I personally do not condone "frequent texting" with a former fling, I see nothing wrong with infrequent communication, especially if it's respectful, distant, and edifying.

I totally think that is normal, balanced, and healthy... nothing sends alarm bells ringing there at all.
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Old 02-23-2011, 03:39 PM
 
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If you have doubts trust your gut.

I know.

I am hoping it is too early for me to even be worried about, but I am keeping my walls and my guard up.
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Old 03-01-2011, 09:20 AM
 
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Please stay on topic, everyone, and refrain from personal attacks. Thanks.
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Old 03-14-2011, 02:01 AM
 
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I guess I missed out on the personal attacks... wouldn't have hurt me anyways. I couldn't feel more lost and alone in this world.
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Old 03-14-2011, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Quakertown, Pa., USA
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I would have to go with NO, never
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Old 03-14-2011, 07:03 AM
 
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I would have to go with NO, never
Yeah... love is supposed to feel good... not hurt so bad you feel like dropping off the face of the earth...
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