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ok, I need some help on this my g/f of long distance 5+ years. We found out that she's pregnant and was wondering what i should do in this matter.
Situation
1. We love each other very much
2. She has 2 other kids from a past marriage now the age of 6 and 9.
I have no kids and 26y/o
3. My family hates her and doesn't want me to be with her cause of the kids. They think she's ugly, I give her a 7-8 on a 1-10 scale but with everything else she's a 10
I lose my family (won't be able to speak to them because i'm losing Face)
4. I have no job, and just got my AA bout to go off to university (currently living with parents)
5. She has no job, going to school living with parents.
6. She has been waiting for me to move in with her and start our lives together.
7. Abortion option is there, no adopting, or have the baby.
I'm thinking about abortion cause i'll be a father of 3 off the bat with no job and a AA which doesn't mean anything these day. I can't provide for them. I know i can get a job but i'm trying to get to medical/ pharmacy school which will not give me time for it.
However having the baby would make her happy.
When it comes down to it, it's not really your choice.
You didn't mention adoption, is that not an option?
Also, not sure how you'd be a father to 3 kids...the other 2 aren't yours. If she has this baby, you are only financially responsible for your biological child.
Are you thinking if she has the child then you automatically have to marry her?
the dad of the 2 other kids is not in the picture. I'm going to be there if the child is born, so that makes me a father of 3... i'm not going to ignore the other 2.
This is totally out of your hands now. Remember a child does not make a marriage. Anything you say know will just make things worse. You have no/zero rights now on what she does with this child.
I had a girlfriend tell me she was pregnant. She wanted me to say "marry me", I told her instead I would pay child support or for the abortion. I had just tried to break up with her the previous week. She was on her period when she got on the plane. I later seen she had been on the phone 4 hours long distance charged to me, talking to her girlfriend who had been married 5 times with 5 children. The girlfriend had a amazing miscarriage on the plane returning to me.a amazing miscarraige on the plane returning to me.
If she's happy having this baby, then there's no abortion. You should have thought about your situation before this happened. Don't know what else to say to you but Good luck!
the dad of the 2 other kids is not in the picture. I'm going to be there if the child is born, so that makes me a father of 3... i'm not going to ignore the other 2.
Good to hear that. I'm glad that the other two will have a father in you. I don't know what to tell you but if both of you are dedicated to each other, it can work out. It will be hard but if both of you have a plan or goals it could work.
ok, i know all about it's up to her and i have no so, so let's keep that out and she's giving me the option. I can not take it if there is a baby out there that is mine and i'm not taking care of it. SO! my question is because of our situation what would you do? Given that the option is there to abort or not and no adoption. There are too many kids out there that needs an adoption or and too many unwanted child out there that needs a home i don't need to add to that.
Please post your comment in regards the SITUATION and not the relationship Thank you.
Wait. You're saying that if you want her to have an abortion she will grant your wish? But at the same time, she has already told you that she'd like to have it?
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