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Old 01-30-2011, 02:55 PM
 
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Long story short, I met this guy through friends, we hit it off, went on a first date that went pretty well. At the end he asked me out again which I agreed to.

But the day of the second date, a few hours before we're suppose to meet, he texts me that he can't make it because of some work issues. I'm disappointed, but understand.

A few days after this, he calls to ask me out again which I agreed to. And guess what? He canceled yet again the day of. By this point, I'm pretty mad because this late minute cancellation is getting ridiculous and it's just plain rude.

So I deleted him off of everything. But he still continues to contact me and when he does, I answer but keep my replies really short and polite and not inviting further conversation. Yet every so often he will contact me.

My question is, why? Why bother showing interest and asking me out if he doesn't plan on making them? And also, why is he still keeping in touch?

Ugh, sometimes I really hate guys
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Old 01-30-2011, 03:00 PM
 
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My question is, why? Why bother showing interest and asking me out if he doesn't plan on making them? And also, why is he still keeping in touch?
I can't really answer this question, but I agree canceling for the 2nd time, not to mention the same day, is beyond rude!

My only guess would be that he's not that into you and keeps you on the back burner just in case he wants to see you some day when he's not that busy with somebody else.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:27 PM
 
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Let him know straight out, "I'm sorry things didn't work out and I would appreciate if you didn't call anymore."
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:29 PM
 
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well, it depends on what his career is. is he an on-call brain surgeon or something? a firefighter? i mean, what his career is makes a huge difference. maybe he has a legit reason, or maybe he is just being rude. more info would help.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:33 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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My girlfriend was dating this guy. He would pull the same behavior.

He would plan a date. She would get excited and plan for the evening.

She called to confirm the date. He said, yes it's still on, unless something else comes up.

The guy was weighing his options.

She stopped dating him.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:33 PM
 
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Hey, ladies, things can come up. What happened to giving him the benefit of doubt? He cancelled twice, what would you do if you had to cancel twice? I don't think he would have made a date the second time if he wasn't interested. My only complaint would be that he texted you instead of using the telephone.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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well, it depends on what his career is. is he an on-call brain surgeon or something? a firefighter?
Yeah, a handful of professions are exempt. She didn't mention the 2nd cancellation was work-related, though.

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Hey, ladies, things can come up. What happened to giving him the benefit of doubt? He cancelled twice, what would you do if you had to cancel twice? I don't think he would have made a date the second time if he wasn't interested. My only complaint would be that he texted you instead of using the telephone.
We know an as@ when we see one.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:49 PM
 
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Now a girl knows what it feels like when they cancel dates like that.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:50 PM
 
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I can't really answer this question, but I agree canceling for the 2nd time, not to mention the same day, is beyond rude!

My only guess would be that he's not that into you and keeps you on the back burner just in case he wants to see you some day when he's not that busy with somebody else.
The times that he canceled, I'm know for sure that he's not with anyone else. And i'm 90% sure he's not seeing anyone

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well, it depends on what his career is. is he an on-call brain surgeon or something? a firefighter? i mean, what his career is makes a huge difference. maybe he has a legit reason, or maybe he is just being rude. more info would help.
Not at all. I know his work is stressful. He has to write reports and publish his research, but still, it's a 9-5 job


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Yeah, a handful of professions are exempt. She didn't mention the 2nd cancellation was work-related, though.
It wasn't work related. He didn't really give any excuses, just that something came up. No idea what that something is though
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:53 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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It wasn't work related. He didn't really give any excuses, just that something came up. No idea what that something is though
There you have it! Something/somebody more exciting than you! Had it been a true emergency, he would've said what it was and apologized. Tell him to stop bothering you.
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