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Old 02-02-2011, 11:44 AM
 
Location: El Segundo/All of South Bay up to Palos Verdes
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Honestly, I think its God for me. W/everything thats gone on in my life and the tons of phone calls & visits I get (I get none), I don't know what unconditional love is for me, just that I have (maybe not hard enough) given alot of mine, only to be turned away. I'm ok w/that. I just accept the way things are......
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Old 02-02-2011, 11:44 AM
 
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It's amazing how resilient or adaptive humans are. Many are "walking wounded."
We ALL are, to one degree or another.
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Old 02-02-2011, 12:05 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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My mom and dad love me, as does my sister. So does my grandma. But it's a family love, you kinda expect them to love you y'know?

Outside of family, I'm not sure. I've got a couple friends I love like brothers, and it's reciprocal. But I don't think there's anyone who loves me the way a girlfriend/wife does
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Old 02-02-2011, 12:09 PM
 
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Honestly, I think its God for me. W/everything thats gone on in my life and the tons of phone calls & visits I get (I get none), I don't know what unconditional love is for me, just that I have (maybe not hard enough) given alot of mine, only to be turned away. I'm ok w/that. I just accept the way things are......
its good that you are spiritual and have that to rely on.

but dont feel like nobody wants to call or visit you. make connections. BE the change you wish to see in the world. if you want people to be kinder, then you be kinder. if you want them to see you, first you go visit them. if you want them to start calling, then you be the first to initiate calls.

put yourself out there and be willing to form bonds. even if you're the one putting the effort, sometimes all of it, you will still reap the benefits
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Old 02-02-2011, 02:31 PM
 
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yeah. some of us have high standards of what to call "love" but it is true, there are different forms of it

in my opinion, love is unconditional love. which i have from my family. no guy has ever loved me for me and thats why i did not get with them
sydney1987: what you need, is a caring, loving b/f, who will love you completely and unconditionally Who will love you, with 100% of his heart. That will fully cure, the romantic ailment you're feeling atm, as described above
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:31 PM
 
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When tradgedy happens you can sometimes learn how many people in your life actually love you.
That's the litmus test, and definition, of love (for me).

When you are not sure if it's love or not, think - will they stay with you if you get badly burnt, and your pretty face is no longer there? Will you stay with them if they get a facial deformity, or lose a limb, or become paralyzed?

This is what "through thick and thin" means. Our usual laundry list of desirable characteristics ("he better not be walking around in briefs and socks", "she should always have matching bra and panties") is shallow self-gratification.

-- Will they stay with you if you got a bullet through your brain? --

By the measure of heart, - I am the lucky one to have met such a person.

My father and sister, and my 2 little saplings, - that makes 5 people who love me.
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Old 02-02-2011, 04:30 PM
 
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That's the litmus test, and definition, of love (for me).

When you are not sure if it's love or not, think - will they stay with you if you get badly burnt, and your pretty face is no longer there? Will you stay with them if they get a facial deformity, or lose a limb, or become paralyzed?

This is what "through thick and thin" means. Our usual laundry list of desirable characteristics ("he better not be walking around in briefs and socks", "she should always have matching bra and panties") is shallow self-gratification.

-- Will they stay with you if you got a bullet through your brain? --

By the measure of heart, - I am the lucky one to have met such a person.

My father and sister, and my 2 little saplings, - that makes 5 people who love me.
then we are very lucky/blessed aren't we?
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Old 02-02-2011, 07:56 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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I've loved myself for so long it feels like home to me.

Incoming love is accepted in the spirit it is delivered in.

Outgoing love? Of a sort - to each their own, according to their needs.

Family past and present, certainly. Friends? I have few true friends, but I would say that I love them and they me. Relationships? Certainly, if they go that far - I'm too choosy these days to just settle.

But my love for myself? Without that I'm of no use either to myself or others. And that's a lesson I am thankful I learned early-on.
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Old 02-02-2011, 08:09 PM
 
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Most of love is conditional. Very rarely does someone love unconditionally. I don't break it up in terms of people, but most people, most of the time, when they feel love, are feeling it based on a condition. It's rare that someone feels love towards you just for being you.
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Old 02-02-2011, 08:29 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Most of love is conditional. Very rarely does someone love unconditionally. I don't break it up in terms of people, but most people, most of the time, when they feel love, are feeling it based on a condition. It's rare that someone feels love towards you just for being you.
That's why children look like you - so it's harder for you to kill them when you can't stand them! Hmm, that may be the reason many of us choose partners looking like us... Maybe it's not Daddy after all, Freud!
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