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Old 02-02-2011, 08:33 PM
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ View Post
Maybe it's not Daddy after all, Freud!
Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar.
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Old 02-03-2011, 03:33 AM
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My immediate family, some of my extended family, about 6 or 7 besties, and my pets.
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Old 02-03-2011, 04:05 AM
Location: Bon Temps
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Parents, (maybe) husband, cat.
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Old 02-03-2011, 04:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Lital_The_Best View Post
Animals and my immediate family. I think people use the word "i love you" too much without any meaning. If I love you, I LOVE YOU and mean it. I don't tell anyone I love them if I really don't.

Yeah, how did you you know that the animals love you? can they say i love you? JK. Yeah, i agree with you.. i think sometimes the word "I LOVE YOU" is always used because they just want to say so without thinking the real meaning of it. Me too, i rarely say i love you, because when i say this word, it means that i really love that person with all my heart. for me, my family of course! They are the ones who love me very much and still waiting for the right guy who will really love me truly.
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Old 02-03-2011, 05:36 AM
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My family, a few close friends, my dog, and I feel that one of my past bfs truly loved me.
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Old 02-03-2011, 10:17 PM
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Originally Posted by SookieStackhouse View Post
Parents, (maybe) husband, cat.
I love my kitty.
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Old 02-04-2011, 01:37 PM
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My mother, father snd sister.

I'm torn regarding romantic love. I'm very antagonistic towards the idea of 'serial monogamy', it offends me to be honest, and I find most people's acceptance of "temporal romantic love" self-serving. Looking back at my own failed marriage, I too find myself complicit in a relationship that exhibited said temporal diminishing infatuation. I'm so frustrated at the fickle nature of romantic love.

I've grown to dislike the non-chalance with which we profess "love" to one another during the first months/years of a romantic infatuation. I also recognize my newfound rigidity regarding my search for the same level of unconditional love as I experience in my filial/parental relationships is not doing me any favors. I just can't stomach another "I love you" from the aforementioned conditional circumstantial romantic relationship, yet to rebuke such display of affection would be considered rather rejecting and off-putting. I don't know, I guess I'm not amused at the fickleness with which we "love". I don't consider myself anti-social but I just can't stomach it. I no longer consider long term companionship and the familiarity of a face reason enough to consider it "love", like I did in my failed marriage. I think there's a lot of that out there, among the "still married" crowd that is. I want better or I'll accept the unconditional love of my family as the only bona fide source of true love. Here's to hoping I'm able to find that which I seek and good luck to all.

P.S. And yes, albeit conditioned and primal, the circumstantial loyalty I attain from my cats is truly humbling, I have to check myself at times, as I find such simplicity of loyalty worthy of bigger regard on my part than the complex and self-interested attention I receive from the human beings around me. Truly borders on contempt. I am disappointed in most humans,not all but most, I concede.
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Old 02-04-2011, 01:56 PM
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
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My wife, my daughters and step-son (I just call him son though), my mom and mother-in-law, my dogs and, yes, even the cats...such as they can.
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Old 02-04-2011, 03:30 PM
Location: Inception
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I love me (and for right now that has to be good enough). I hate to speak or assume for others. I have been told before.
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Old 02-04-2011, 06:26 PM
Location: Elsewhere
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Originally Posted by imcurious View Post
Do you feel that you are currently loved by people in your life? How many and what are the relationships?

In your life, how many people do you feel have truly loved you (as opposed to saying they love you - let me give a couple of examples) . . .

In my younger years, a few men professed their "love" for me, but when I dissected the relationships I realized they either felt they loved me because they were sexually attracted to me or they felt I boosted their image in someway or something to that effect (as opposed to truly loving me - my personality and spirit - many of those people were not even curious about my spirit - the body or young, hot image or surface attraction was really all there was).

If I were not so analytical, I would say that many men have loved me, but it really is not true.

And did your parents love you? I think only one of mine did.

Do your children love you or if they are young children, are they like pets who love the person who feeds them?

How many people truly love you for who YOU are? How many now and how many in your entire life?

I would say that very few people have truly loved me out of a big bunch that would say they did.

I believe "actions speak louder than words," and most often, people don't act really loving in my realm.

How 'bout you?
This is a good question.

I know that my daughter (age 19) loves me, but I also realized when I read your question that she really doesn't know who I am too far outside of being her mother. I noticed this recently when she was home from college on winter break. She says things like, "Why are you acting that way?" and "Why are you being so weird?" Since she's been gone, I have reverted to just being myself, not in "mom" mode, and it's alien to her.

I can think of two good friends--women I have known for decades--who I believe know me and love me for who I am. The funny thing is that I don't necessarily see them that often, but I do know this. One I have such a connection with that twice I've had an overwhelming urge to get in touch with her immediately--the first time was two hours before she learned her mother had died, and the second time was right after she got a call from the hospital that her husband had taken a turn and had only hours left.

I was married once, and I know now that my former husband did not love me, but he said he did and I wanted to believe it was true. I have never experienced being truly loved in a romantic way, and likely never will. This has been the hardest thing to accept, and I'm mostly there, but sometimes the desire for something I cannot have rears its ugly head.

I believe that my mother loves me NOW, but when I was a child she did not love me for who I was at all. I believe she knows this, also. She is a different person now than she once was. I do believe my father, gone now ten years, always loved me.

I believe my siblings love me, but they do not really know me the way my two friends do.

As for the cats, I think one of the four really does love me. The other three see me as a source of food and petting. Maybe the one is just better at manipulation, though!
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