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Old 02-01-2011, 11:38 PM
 
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Do you feel that you are currently loved by people in your life? How many and what are the relationships?

In your life, how many people do you feel have truly loved you (as opposed to saying they love you - let me give a couple of examples) . . .

In my younger years, a few men professed their "love" for me, but when I dissected the relationships I realized they either felt they loved me because they were sexually attracted to me or they felt I boosted their image in someway or something to that effect (as opposed to truly loving me - my personality and spirit - many of those people were not even curious about my spirit - the body or young, hot image or surface attraction was really all there was).

If I were not so analytical, I would say that many men have loved me, but it really is not true.

And did your parents love you? I think only one of mine did.

Do your children love you or if they are young children, are they like pets who love the person who feeds them?

How many people truly love you for who YOU are? How many now and how many in your entire life?

I would say that very few people have truly loved me out of a big bunch that would say they did.

I believe "actions speak louder than words," and most often, people don't act really loving in my realm.

How 'bout you?
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Old 02-02-2011, 12:45 AM
 
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Well, for me, in my entire life so far, my kids are the only ones that have given me true love, unconditional love and I for them. My family, friends, even my exs, I don't think they knew what true love is.
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Old 02-02-2011, 12:53 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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Unconditional love from the heavenly Father.

and my dogs of course
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Old 02-02-2011, 01:00 AM
 
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What about the heavenly mother?
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Old 02-02-2011, 01:22 AM
 
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My parents, siblings, children, and about half a dozen close friends.
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Old 02-02-2011, 01:39 AM
 
Location: War World!
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Animals and my immediate family. I think people use the word "i love you" too much without any meaning. If I love you, I LOVE YOU and mean it. I don't tell anyone I love them if I really don't.
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:20 AM
 
Location: Hawaii
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There are many different types of love (philosophers like Plato have named five different types of love) and frankly, most of them are self-serving in some way, especially romantic love which is rooted in passion and desire.

Then there is agape love which is self-sacrificing, where you give love to all--both friend and enemy.

imcurious - What I'm trying to say is this: Just because your past romantic loves didn't last forever doesn't mean they never really loved you. Even though the relationship wasn't sustainable, their love and appreciation of the beauty in you may have been sincere and genuine at the time.
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:24 AM
 
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But to answer your question, I feel loved every day by many people. Whenever a friend offers a helping hand, when a stranger smiles at me, when my children call me to chat, and when my husband brings me coffee in the morning.
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Old 02-02-2011, 04:25 AM
 
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My mother loves me. There was a point when her love was even suffocating, because she was much more affectionate and expressive about it than I was/am. My father is fond of me, but to what extent I'll never be sure: he keeps to himself, emotionally speaking. It was painful when I was a child but not anymore (I'm a softer, warmer version of him). Other relatives love me as well, because we're constantly speaking and meeting and we used to spend all our holidays together until not so long ago. Some of them were like second parents when I was little, and some of my cousins were like siblings, so...

I feel loved by quite a few people. My partner, my close friends (who are like my family), my siblings... My needs are scarce, so I have much more love than I would have expected. I really can't complain!
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Old 02-02-2011, 06:52 AM
 
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My family, God and my pet.

My ex loved me some, but not enough LOL
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