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Old 02-03-2011, 03:46 PM
 
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That all sounds like such an excuse though. I meet tons of people I'm attracted to and have chemistry with, but because I have principles I do NOT hurtle myself headlong into a vortex of carnal desires and emotional fantasies! I also do not fool myself with the sense of entitlement that I can "try out" this new relationship while keep it a secret, just in case I want to switch partners in the future. It's just being weak-minded, escapist, and selfish.
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I don't think there is any way somebody could justify not telling a partner of their indiscretions by saying that they didn't want to rock the boat.
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Old 02-03-2011, 04:17 PM
 
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Good thing there are still those of us who still share the desire for monogamy! Or else we would be screwed!
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Old 02-03-2011, 04:25 PM
 
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Good thing there are still those of us who still share the desire for monogamy! Or else we would be screwed!
I don’t believe we are meant to be with one person our entire lives miyu, but I do believe in being faithful when you are with someone.
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Old 02-03-2011, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Because they don't want to face up to the consequences of what they have done.

What you don't know can't hurt THEM!
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:05 PM
 
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What you don't know can't hurt THEM!
DING DING DING!!!
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:13 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Because they don't want to face up to the consequences of what they have done.

What you don't know can't hurt THEM!
Could you, please, elaborate some on how it would benefit the one being told? Let's assume we're talking about a long-term marriage with children and assets.
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:15 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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Could you, please, elaborate some on how it would benefit the one being told? Let's assume we're talking about a long-term marriage with children and assets.
The worst truth is better than the best lie!
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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The worst truth is better than the best lie!
Sounds poetic and lofty, but that's not how things work in real life.
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:28 PM
 
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Could you, please, elaborate some on how it would benefit the one being told? Let's assume we're talking about a long-term marriage with children and assets.
Is it just easier to pretend it didn't happen and go on playing happy families?

And what about when it's not a long-term marriage with children and assets? Would you prefer to live in a lie of a relationship?

I would want to know if the person I had spent X amount of years living with had done the wrong thing by me, so I could see I deserve better and move on.
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Old 02-03-2011, 07:32 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Is it just easier to pretend it didn't happen and go on playing happy families?

And what about when it's not a long-term marriage with children and assets? Would you prefer to live in a lie of a relationship?

I would want to know if the person I had spent X amount of years living with had done the wrong thing by me, so I could see I deserve better and move on.
There are gray areas in life you don't seem to want to acknowledge. Most people are not saints at all times. Besides, not everybody places so much importance on a one-time intercourse. There are more important things in a relationship to some.
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