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Because life taught you to be smarter and more selective.
And if you are dating in your 30's, people have acquired baggage from previous relationships that make it harder to start over. Things like exes and kids, for example.
Early 30's & only like 2-3 relationships here, all of which happened after I was 30...so very little if any baggage here
That said, it can be hard to find older gals my who mutually like me too, prolly at least partly b/c of my relative inexp. with relationships, and espec. at this age
As an unintended side effect though, I have actually found younger (read: legal-aged) gals to be friendlier, significantly more open, and more likely to be attracted to me, than gals my own age.
I feel the same way, 27 and missing that tingly feeling I used to get. Why, I'm not sure. Maybe it has to do with things being jaded through years of trial and error
Well, you can still get the tingly feeling when you meet the right person. It's just that as you get older you know that the tinglies are just the superficial first part of a relationship and that real love is more than that. I was 39 when I started seeing my wife...believe me I got tinglies. Nine years later, I still get them...just not all the time. Our relationship is much deeper than that.
In your 20's dating/falling in love seemed easy.
In the 30's it just seems that things get so complicated. Does anyone have any idea why this happens?
Some have called it "baggage", that causes this.
I think I would probably use a slightly different word, though: the older people get, the easier it is, to become more "hard hearted". I would attribute the change more to increased "hard-heartedness" due to age, than "baggage" alone.
in your 20's you can afford to just date for 'fun', 30's and over you really have to ask yourself 'is this/can this go anywhere' you dont have as much time to date somone that you know isnt compatible, especially if you want to get married, have a family etv
Maybe in yor 20's you never were actually in love, just infatuated. There should be little (if any) difference between falling in love in your 20's into your 30's.
Real love means putting the other person's wants on the same level as your own. Another of looking at it: really loving someone means not thinking twice to run into a burning building to risk your life to save theirs. If you look back on your relationships in your 20's and you would never have done that, then you were probably never in love.
I think people take dating far more serious after 30, since dating can lead to something more. This day and age you lose that tolerance threshold for putting up with other people's baggage and you expect the other person to have their act together.
Lots of young couples (late teen to mid 20's) eventually screw themselves financially or having kids and only when the relationship fails, and bring these troubles to the next partner expecting that new SO will just shrug it off.
I actually had a much better time with dating almost immediately upon turning 30. In my twenties, my dating scene was full of immature, indecisive guys and drama.
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