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Tell that to the students I know with cars provided by their parents.
Um, your parents don't owe you a car. I don't care if Bill, Tom, Ted, and Harry got brand new 2011 cars from mommy and daddy. The real way to raise a child is to bring him/her up to earn their way.
A number of reasons? Sounds like you just don't want to be bothered getting a car on your own and want someone else to just hand it to you.
Sorry but thats not how the world works.
By the way, based on your post, this is how you come across.
Likewise, you shouldn't be surprised if they announce it's time to move out. Or maybe they want you to be one of those boys who never leaves home, never dates because Mom doesn't approve of those dirty girls, never gets a job because Mom does his laundry and Dad gives him an allowance? It sure sounds like you're on that track. You don't have to live that life.
My mom said they would be always be willing to support me if necessary. She said they would rather support me if the other option was me living under a bridge.
And you're right. It sounds like I might be on that track. Sometimes I wonder if that's what my parents want for me.
Have you ever considered moving to a place like Boston, NYC, Philly, DC, etc.?
Work, whether in your chosen field or not, allows you to hone those qualities that EVERY employer is looking for - intelligence, diligence, social interaction, etc. You can demonstrate those qualities as easily cleaning toilets as you can doing brain surgery.
Your professor probably has tenure and could not give two hoots as to what you actually do or become.
Once again, you can learn - and demonstrate - the quality of excellence no matter what you're doing.
Also, consider this - you don't always become what you think you'll become...
Sorry, but I see this as another glaring example of IST/TBS ("I'll Show THEM!!!/They'll Be SORRY!!!") Syndrome.
There comes a point where you have to grab the bull by the tail and face the situation - man up.
Ironically, I went to high school in Massachusetts. That's where my mom lives. But the internships in Boston want you to live in Boston (my mom doesn't live in Boston).
And my dad lives in New Jersey, so that's near NYC and Philadelphia. Maybe if I found a summer internship in those places...
And both my parents will be living in Philadelphia when I graduate. If I can't get a job, my back up plan is to move in with them (and they're ok with that).
You take a job that isn't "in your field". It's called sacrifice - sacrifice and discipline.
If I don't have a car, I can't get any job! If you're already an adult on your own, you can at least pick an apartment on a bus line, but he's stuck in his parents' residence, which may very well be like my current one. I live 4 miles from the nearest bus stop. How do you propose I go to work without a car?
If I don't have a car, I can't get any job! If you're already an adult on your own, you can at least pick an apartment on a bus line, but he's stuck in his parents' residence, which may very well be like my current one. I live 4 miles from the nearest bus stop. How do you propose I go to work without a car?
He lives on a college campus. He can easily get a job on or near campus.
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You take a job that isn't "in your field". It's called sacrifice - sacrifice and discipline.
Right, and even a job not in your field on your resume shows a prospective employer that you've taken initiative, are able to show up on time, follow directions, work diligently, get along with other employees and customers/clients, etc. Those are useful skills no matter what your career goals are.
And how do you get a job without a car?! It's a catch 22.
True. But he's said he does not want to take a job near him that isn't in his field. If I were in his position, I'd take a part time job to earn the money while going to school to save up for a car. And I would take a used car, not a brand new one.
By taking a job close to him, he can either bum a ride or use a bicycle or walk. Point is, if I were in that situation, rather than just sit there and complain about it, I'd be getting off my butt and doing something about it.
Colleges have bulletin boards. He could offer to help tutor or something in turn for getting a ride to job X. Or get a job real close, buy a real cheap bike and use that to get to the job.
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