quitting the dating scene

[naturesdreams]

Originally Posted by Jellybean50

I agree!

Enjoy your life - dont worry about "dating." Do the things you wanna do. Alone, or otherwise. No one says you need a significant other, or kids. Live!

I have taken several breaks from dating, and i'm always happier then. I've had a couple very long-term relationships (was divorced ages ago), never wanted kids, and realized that to get love - you have to give love.

Just be friendly and lovable, and someone will find you when the time is right... if you want someone.

So very correct... enjoy your own life.. if you are smiling and enjoying yourself, confident in who YOU are... another person will or might come into your life because WHO YOU ARE is what has attracted them. I've given up a long time ago trying to do the "online" dating scene. It's forced and others usually write what they think someone else wants to read not what they actually feel or need. I'm very happy with me, my activities, my friends and my future.. if that special person wants to be with me or find me great... if not I will live a great life full of laughter, learning about EVERYTHING and just being me.. Life is good

[DrEarth]

Originally Posted by 415_s2k

I did when I lost my job in '08 - needed to save all my money for living expenses. It's not a good idea to hit bars, clubs, and restaurants when you have no actual income.

Then, after I moved up to Seattle, I stopped again. Why? I hated it up there. What a boring-ass town. Ugh. And that's just it: I had to look at it objectively...

1. I am not happy here in this town = I'm not happy with where I am figuratively and literally = I'm not at my best = I will attract the sort of person who is into me when I'm depressed.
2. If I were to date, I would run the risk of getting tied down to someone. Chances are that person would also live in Seattle, and would most likely either want to stay, or would be tied down there. So, I'd either be setting myself up for heartache and drama severing a relationship, or I'd be setting myself up for heartache and drama as I would be stuck in a place I hate.
3. I needed to spend my socializing money on moving expenses.

All told, I'm glad I took a break from it, and then I took another break after I first moved back to SF and was getting stuff back in order - unless you're already committed to one another, it's probably easier to do it solo.

Now, I'm back dating again

Good post.

Pretty much the same reasons for my prolonged breaks.