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Great definition Julia! That definitely helped me understand the whole idea better, in more concrete terms
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Thanks. Keep in mind, too, that everybody has different ideas about personal space, even on the emotional level. In a physical sense, some people don't like to be touched much and will find contact such as holding hands for several minutes to be irritating. Others are very physically demonstrative and will touch the other quite a bit, whether it's holding hands, touching the other's arm, stroking a leg, playing with the other's hair, etc. If the two people are very different in that respect, Person A will feel smothered and Person B will think Person A is a cold fish, because those caresses will not be returned and may even be shunned. Likewise, people have different opinions about emotional space and how much "touching" they like.
I think most of us can agree that "too much" is bad, but we'd have a hard time deciding what "too much" is.
Love me love me love me love me love me! Do you love me? I miss you! Do you miss me? Do you love me? I love you! I love you! You haven't talked to me in five minutes--are you mad at me? Did I do something wrong? Do you still love me? Love me love me love me!
I don't follow this at all....someone could be passive yet the one who is being depended on(one who brings home the bacon and provides may also have a passive personality).
"Overly passive or excessively caretaking ways" ... while "overly" and "excessively" are subjective, I think this definition is accurate. The subjective nature of these words means that they will vary by person.
Needy and clingy behavior, to me, connotes a puppy following me around. Love me love me love me love me love me! Do you love me? I miss you! Do you miss me? Do you love me? I love you! I love you! You haven't talked to me in five minutes--are you mad at me? Did I do something wrong? Do you still love me? Love me love me love me!
exactly. i had to finally break up with a woman after 6 months of being asked "are we ok"? and "i hope we're ok" are you mad at me"? OMG i got so tired of it.
What's wrong? Did I do something wrong? Tell me, I'll fix it. I'll do anything. I love you. Don't you love me? What can I do to fix it? Tell me and I'll do it. I'll fix it and then you'll love me again, right? I'll never love anybody as much as I love you. LOVE ME LOVE ME LOVE ME.
I define neediness as an inability to do anything independently of another person or insisting on near continuous physical proximity of one's partner.
Some examples are spouses who are resentful of any activity that takes away time with their husband/wife.
A man likes to play golf for example. His wife nags, whines, and complains about him spending time doing something he enjoys without her.
A woman likes to read, but her husband gets pissed off because she wants to enjoy her book uninterrupted.
This is how I define needy........
This is a good point. A friend of mine had* a boyfriend who drove her nuts because he called and texted her dozens of times throughout the day, especially when she was out with friends. It was like he couldn't stand for her to be out of his sight.
What's wrong? Did I do something wrong? Tell me, I'll fix it. I'll do anything. I love you. Don't you love me? What can I do to fix it? Tell me and I'll do it. I'll fix it and then you'll love me again, right? I'll never love anybody as much as I love you. LOVE ME LOVE ME LOVE ME.
What's wrong? Did I do something wrong? Tell me, I'll fix it. I'll do anything. I love you. Don't you love me? What can I do to fix it? Tell me and I'll do it. I'll fix it and then you'll love me again, right? I'll never love anybody as much as I love you. LOVE ME LOVE ME LOVE ME.
LMAO Pretty good, JJ!
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Keep in mind, too, that everybody has different ideas about personal space, even on the emotional level. In a physical sense, some people don't like to be touched much and will find contact such as holding hands for several minutes to be irritating. Others are very physically demonstrative and will touch the other quite a bit, whether it's holding hands, touching the other's arm, stroking a leg, playing with the other's hair, etc. If the two people are very different in that respect, Person A will feel smothered and Person B will think Person A is a cold fish, because those caresses will not be returned and may even be shunned. Likewise, people have different opinions about emotional space and how much "touching" they like.
