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Old 02-10-2011, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Ok so long one short, there's this girl in my math class who I've been talking to a lot. We get along well, she always sits next to me in lecture, we laugh a lot and just jive well. Tomorrow I'm gonna invite her to get coffee with me after class (I would've done so earlier in the week, but she's always got a class after math except on Fridays). Assuming it all works out well... what do I do after that? If it matters, she lives near campus while I commute which might make it hard to meet up outside of typical class hours :| so yeah, what should I do?

I actually feel something funny (not like that ) just thinking about this... I might be wrong, but I think she might like me, and I definitely like her. I haven't truly felt like this in a long long time, in fact it feels downright weird compared to my usually pessimistic, misanthropic self.
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Old 02-10-2011, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Well, you put some effort into it (like finding whatever means of transportation you can find; however inconvenient for you it may be) and ask her out for something other than coffee!
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Old 02-10-2011, 07:52 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Heh, that's true... I guess I'm just overanalyzing things. Probably because, as I said, I haven't felt this confident about a girl in a while. I just don't wanna **** it up y'know? Not that it'd be the end of the world; I'd burn a few cigarettes, get some rest then wake up back on my feet. But I'd prefer success over failure
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Old 02-10-2011, 08:14 PM
 
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Heh, that's true... I guess I'm just overanalyzing things. Probably because, as I said, I haven't felt this confident about a girl in a while. I just don't wanna **** it up y'know? Not that it'd be the end of the world; I'd burn a few cigarettes, get some rest then wake up back on my feet. But I'd prefer success over failure
keep it very light and relaxed like you're just hanging out and chatting. i think you deserve a break here. your the one "loner" on here i think actually has a good chance to find ms right. good luck.
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Old 02-10-2011, 08:28 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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keep it very light and relaxed like you're just hanging out and chatting. i think you deserve a break here. your the one "loner" on here i think actually has a good chance to find ms right. good luck.
Thanks and yeah, that's what I plan on doing. Just chatting, but in a slightly less rushed state than walking between classes :P
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Old 02-10-2011, 08:29 PM
 
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just go for it. The worse that can happen is you guys just end up friends. Dont over think things and let them flow naturally.
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Old 02-10-2011, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Thanks and yeah, that's what I plan on doing. Just chatting, but in a slightly less rushed state than walking between classes :P
Just go do something fun! Whatever people your age do! The conversation would flow more easily if you're doing things and observing things as opposed to sitting at a table the way older people usually do it.
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Old 02-10-2011, 09:03 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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I agree. Best to do an activity as well as sitting at a table talking. Could be anything....mini golf, bowling, go-karting, seeing a psychic, a concert....whatever floats your boat. I've done all those things and it makes for a more enjoyable time.
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Old 02-10-2011, 09:35 PM
 
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Make plans, then don't show. Call her up at the last minute and say something came up, but don't specify what that something is/was. Next time you see her in class say "hi", but then proceed to talk to another(equally attractive) girl in the class. Smile laugh and have a good time with this other girl, and don't so much as look at the one you like. Don't put any pressure on yourself to get anything from the "new" girl(number, date, etc.) just keep the convo light hearted and humorous. If the girl you actually like really likes you she will be so disturbed by this non-chalant behavior, that she will become weak and vulnerable(due to jealousy), then you can go in for the kill. Setup another date with her, and this time actually keep it, but while on this date periodically text message another girl or pretend you have a text message convo going on, even if you don't. Laugh to yourself about the "texts" only do this periodically, Be purposely charismatic with anyother female you may encounter on this date, be it a cashier or whatever, by the end of this routine, the girl you like(if she really likes you) will be so jealously insecure, she will pretty much become putty in your hands. Keep it up unitl she makes an issue of it, but don't go crazy with it, just remember that female jealousy is the most powerful weapon you have in the game.

Whatever you do don't be the "nice" guy, unless want to be relagated to the friend zone.
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Old 02-10-2011, 11:00 PM
 
Location: San Leandro
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Ok so long one short, there's this girl in my math class who I've been talking to a lot. We get along well, she always sits next to me in lecture, we laugh a lot and just jive well. Tomorrow I'm gonna invite her to get coffee with me after class (I would've done so earlier in the week, but she's always got a class after math except on Fridays). Assuming it all works out well... what do I do after that? If it matters, she lives near campus while I commute which might make it hard to meet up outside of typical class hours :| so yeah, what should I do?

I actually feel something funny (not like that ) just thinking about this... I might be wrong, but I think she might like me, and I definitely like her. I haven't truly felt like this in a long long time, in fact it feels downright weird compared to my usually pessimistic, misanthropic self.
After coffee ask her if she wants to go back to your place. Just play it smooth. If she likes you, you should be able to get laid. Its college.
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