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but those who adamantly oppose any sort of an animal/pet in their home for no real reason rather creep me out
You don't consider the unwillingness to live in filth and stench, not ever being able to get decent sleep (in the case of dogs), and having wrecked furniture, among many other similar joys valid reasons?
You don't consider the unwillingness to live in filth and stench, not ever being able to get decent sleep (in the case of dogs), and having wrecked furniture, among many other similar joys valid reasons?
They are valid reasons to you, but someone that sees animals that way isn't someone I'd be compatible with. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even be friends with them. I don't have one friend who doesn't like animals, and I have no desire to.
They are valid reasons to you, but someone that sees animals that way isn't someone I'd be compatible with. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even be friends with them. I don't have one friend who doesn't like animals, and I have no desire to.
That's OK, but words like "creeping her out" are a bit too strong IMO.
I personally have no problem with friends who have animals.
You don't consider the unwillingness to live in filth and stench, not ever being able to get decent sleep (in the case of dogs), and having wrecked furniture, among many other similar joys valid reasons?
Sounds like you have had a bad experience sierraAZ. While, I will grant you that cats do have a bit of a destructive nature, that nature can be managed. There is no reason to have wrecked furniture! (Although, I certainly would not have EXPENSIVE furniture in the house with cats. LOL). But as far as STENCH AND FILTH, there is no reason whatsoever that someone with a pet has to deal with this. Apparently, whomever you knew that had pets that lived in filth and stench, were not very good housekeepers.
You don't consider the unwillingness to live in filth and stench, not ever being able to get decent sleep (in the case of dogs), and having wrecked furniture, among many other similar joys valid reasons?
You realize those aren't absolutes from having a pet, right?
My dog is hardly filthy or smelly (she's bathed and groomed regularly), and I sleep wonderfully because she chooses to sleep under our bed (weirdo). Honestly, my husband keeps me awake from tossing and turning farrrrrr more often than my dog does! As for wrecked furniture? The only way you can tell the dog has interacted with the sofa is that sometimes there is fur on it--but I vacuum daily (did before the dog anyway), so it's not like if you sit on the couch you'll be covered in hair.
I don't think you'd even be able to tell I had a dog if you walked into my house, except if you saw her toy box and food/water bowls.
I am a dog lover to the core, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who had an animal so untrained that it ruined furniture, or who was so messy and unclean that they let their house stink.
I have no problem with well trained pets, but I would struggle with a boisterous, untrained dog - especially one with slobber and shedding issues.
We have a tiny, non shedding dog and we trained her as though she was a big dog. She's the happiest little thing and very well behaved. She doesn't bark or chew anything that's not hers. She's just lovely.
I love horses and other outdoor animals and could probably have dealt with a single cat but that's about it.
I have a friend who has a GORGEOUS red setter. She is well trained and stunningly beautiful, but she slobbers like crazy and sheds and they have to cover the sofas to stop them getting destroyed (not the dogs fault, but she leaves marks). I would really struggle to live with a dog like this even though I love her.
I actually can't have her in my house because I just can't manage the mess.
I don't think I would want to be with someone who actively disliked animals, but I could probably live with someone not wanting a pet. I'm lucky that DH and I are on the same page with this and one small, low impact dog works perfectly for us!
I wouldn't do that to you. Turns out, he was a functioning alcoholic and a surgeon to boot! He never drank on the job but once off work, he wouldn't stop drinking until he passed out.
I love animals but would never let them sleep with me. It's not healthy.
Pets/no pets is just another level of compatibility that needs to be addressed as you date. There's nothing inherently wrong with not wanting pets. I'm an animal lover myself, but I can admit they are a lot of work and they do smell at times. If you love them, it's worth it, but just because someone doesn't want pets, I don't think it makes them heartless or cold any more than someone who doesn't want kids or doesn't like motorcycles or doesn't like skiing. It's a personal preference.
I've known people who were extremely loving towards their pets but rather cold and unkind to human family members. I've known very caring, selfless individuals who just weren't wild about animals. I don't think there's always a correlation.
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He never drank on the job but once off work, he wouldn't stop drinking until he passed out.
