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Why are you asking us? You're the only one who can decide if you want to continue seeing this guy, and I think the fact that you have to ask is a pretty clear indicator which way you're leaning.
I know, but it is comforting and helps to read the comments of the posters on this board, who are basically reinforcing what I already know, as well as reinforcing the fact that my decision to walk away was the right one.
I had a long chat with my ex today and have finally reached closure. After probing and questioning him about what he felt for me, what I meant to him, etc., I found out the truth: he has never gotten over his ex-girlfriend. I asked him if he would take her back if she asked, and he said that he would. To give you and idea of how smitten he was with her: when she broke up with him 3 1/2 years ago, as he was driving on the freeway on his way home from her house, he wanted to drive his car into the divider wall and kill himself. He said that the only reason he did not do it was because he realized that he had to live for his daughter. Even though it was not reciprocated, the depth and intensity of love that he felt for this woman was so strong, to this day, he has not been able to move on.
The other reason that I now know that my decision to break up with him was the right one was because, while I was in Spain on holiday, last December, I recently found out that he had been browsing at profiles of different women online. When I asked him about it, he said that he was not 100% happy in our relationship (due to the fact that he was missing the depth and intensity of passion that he'd felt for his ex) and was seeing what was out there. You see, if I would have stayed in that relationship, at some point in the not-so-distant future he admitted that he would have lost interest in me and would have chosen to end the relationship. I am feeling hurt now, but by that point, I would have been devastated.
Thank god for my woman's intuition and for my having the wisdom to check in on a fairly regular basis in order to find out if how he felt.
I have cut off all contact with him until I am 100% over him.
Thank you all once again for taking the time to help me through this. You thoughts, comments, and suggestions have been greatly appreciated!
I had a long chat with my ex today and have finally reached closure. After probing and questioning him about what he felt for me, what I meant to him, etc., I found out the truth: he has never gotten over his ex-girlfriend. I asked him if he would take her back if she asked, and he said that he would. To give you and idea of how smitten he was with her: when she broke up with him 3 1/2 years ago, as he was driving on the freeway on his way home from her house, he wanted to drive his car into the divider wall and kill himself. He said that the only reason he did not do it was because he realized that he had to live for his daughter. Even though it was not reciprocated, the depth and intensity of love that he felt for this woman was so strong, to this day, he has not been able to move on.
The other reason that I now know that my decision to break up with him was the right one was because, while I was in Spain on holiday, last December, I recently found out that he had been browsing at profiles of different women online. When I asked him about it, he said that he was not 100% happy in our relationship (due to the fact that he was missing the depth and intensity of passion that he'd felt for his ex) and was seeing what was out there. You see, if I would have stayed in that relationship, at some point in the not-so-distant future he admitted that he would have lost interest in me and would have chosen to end the relationship. I am feeling hurt now, but by that point, I would have been devastated.
Thank god for my woman's intuition and for my having the wisdom to check in on a fairly regular basis in order to find out if how he felt.
I have cut off all contact with him until I am 100% over him.
Thank you all once again for taking the time to help me through this. You thoughts, comments, and suggestions have been greatly appreciated!
Wishing you all the best!
I am so proud of you!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
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