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From a woman's point of view, I think what you did was very nice. The card that you made yourself will most likely be cherished and kept for years to come. For me, I'd love to get a full body massage or see a little picture album of "us" (not you and me...me & mine) that was made from the heart. Something like that, ya know what I mean?
I've always thought Valentines Day was so damn pretentious! I can't stand it. It puts way too much pressure on people that isn't necessary at all. I don't want to "celebrate" a plastic, phony, money-hungry holiday. Corporations are the ones that benefit from it and they are trying to guilt you into spending money you don't have or buy stupid things you don't need.
LOL! In fact, the most memorable Valentines Day for me was a spaghetti dinner that HE cooked and a bottle of cheap red wine. Eating by candlelight on a cardboard box full of knick-knacks in our first, new unfurnished apartment and waking up with rug burns I dare not speak of. The only money we spent was to our very first landlord.....and Neosporin.
Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)
I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.
What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month
Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
I don't feel like a guy has to spend money on me. I am more concerned with feelings rather then a show of money. Don't get me wrong, I love presents, but FOR ME personally, its about love and caring. You can do that with no money at all. I would cherish a card that my lover made for me himself. That takes a lot more thought then one he picked up at the grocery store. The kind where the words never really fit but its got a nice picture. I hope your girlfriend is understanding of your situation.
Sounds to me like you and her are both lucky.
She spent enough to have a nice dinner knowing you are temporarily lacking funds at the time to do so. But you are going to cook it. She will like that.
You did what you could in your situation and feel guilty for not being able to spend more to give her a nice gift.
It's the thoughts, words, and time spent together that counts and are remembered.
Women, (and men,) who gauge a persons affection on money spent for gifts are lacking in the true meaning of love for each other.
You can tell her you wish you could have done more but she probably already knows that.
Don't beat yourself up.
Have a nice day together.
Its not Valentine all of the year, but your girl was a little inconsiderate to spend your $80. I don't know why, but Valentine is the day when girls have to buy gifts for boys, in Asia is like that. I'm in between jobs now, and although i got a job in internet, i could not survive on it. i'm just like you, but luckily, my girlfriend served me this Valentine and every Valentine. Take it easy man, i know its much much difficult, but you will get a job by tomorrow, if she's a good girl, so its not a big problem if you couldnt not buy her a decent valentine this year.
Make the note in your card something personal and you've hit a homerun!
These types of things are the most cherished keepsakes and will most likely NEVER be thrown away and looked at often. One of the best gifts I ever gave that lasted forever were three little boxes - about the size of a ring box and in each one there was something that represented luck, love and laughter. For example for luck there was a lone casino chip from a date we had once and had a great time, for laughter were these chocolates in the shape of a superhero which had to do with his nickname I had for him. All in all we had more fun laughing and reminiscing about each than if we'd done something extravagant. He wrote me a letter of appreciation about me. He's long gone, but I still have that letter and all the letters he ever gave me. I don't remember any other Valentine's Day, but I remember that one.
Its not Valentine all of the year, but your girl was a little inconsiderate to spend your $80.
Did you read his post? She didn't spend HIS money, she spent HER money on the groceries.
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I can't stand it. It puts way too much pressure on people that isn't necessary at all. I don't want to "celebrate" a plastic, phony, money-hungry holiday. Corporations are the ones that benefit from it and they are trying to guilt you into spending money you don't have or buy stupid things you don't need. 
In fact, the most memorable Valentines Day for me was a spaghetti dinner that HE cooked and a bottle of cheap red wine. Eating by candlelight on a cardboard box full of knick-knacks in our first, new unfurnished apartment and waking up with rug burns I dare not speak of. The only money we spent was to our very first landlord.....and Neosporin. 
Oh man,
