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If a guy or girl has the money and WANTS to spend it, do it........period! I'm fully unemployed with no income right now at all, used some of OUR money to buy wife a small stuffed Valentine's Day pup and a nice card. We were given a $25 Friday's Gift card for Christmas, so we will use that and a little extra cash to buy dinner at Friday's with.
Many men and women out there spend quite a bit of money for their gf/bf/wife/husband on Valentine's Day.......they have that kind of money, they can do it! If I had that kind of money, I'd do it!!
I don't think money has anything to do with showing someone how you feel about them. Pretty baubles are fine but what really counts is knowing you are truly loved , appreciated and cared for and that takes little to no money at all. It always sounds trite to say so but it is the thought that counts.
I think the OP did something lovely and sweet and should certainly not feel bad about not being able to splash out financially. Having someone go to the trouble of making you a card is really lovely and I am sure she will be delighted with it.
I think spending time with the one you love and making an effort is all that counts when all is said and done. A nice massage , a snuggle on the sofa watching a favourite film, just being with the person you care about. That is worth all the diamonds in the world and all the expensive roses money can buy.
Money does not buy you Love. Love is not for sale. If a woman needs money being lavished on her then she is not worthy of your affection in my opinion.
We all love nice things and a little luxury is always nice but these are mere baubles, icing on a cake when the cake is really the main attraction !
Feeling loved, appreciated and desired to me is the most precious of gifts. Hubby does buy me nice gifts but they are always heartfelt and chosen for me , never generic . And the things at the end of the day I love most is HIM being there with me, spending time together and silly free little things like the notes he leaves around the house for me to find telling me he loves me .
Yes I do love the presents, of course I do but if I had to pick gifts or notes I would always pick up the personal little notes strewn around the house every time. No contest.
The OP has nothing whatsoever to be ashamed or embarassed about. He should be proud of himself for making an effort and trying to do something nice for his Girlfriend.
A lot of men will spend thousands on their wives/girlfriends and it will mean nothing to them. Context and the way the gift is given is really what this is about.
Money is certainly no indicator of true affection .
...One of the best gifts I ever gave that lasted forever were three little boxes - about the size of a ring box and in each one there was something that represented luck, love and laughter. For example for luck there was a lone casino chip from a date we had once and had a great time, for laughter were these chocolates in the shape of a superhero which had to do with his nickname I had for him...
You did a good job. Valentines Day is overrated. If you need only one day a year to express your love then you shouldn't be in a relationship LOL ... but you did a nice thing. I'd much prefer a card or handwritten note rather than all the fluff.
Now, if you really want to get a smile from your bf/gf/husband/wife just say "I've got a real surprise for you this year, it's called.......All Night Long", (and I think everyone in this forum understands that it can be much more than a song title)!! Am I REALLY saying this at my age (62)???
But, if you have the stamina, go for it!!
Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day?
It may seem as a rule that guys MUST spend lots of money on women on Valentine’s Day and other days for that matter. Look at all Valentine’s Day commercials and how they focus on all the things men have to do for their woman in this day. Then again, if you are lucky enough to be with a girl who can care less if you spend your salary or nothing at all during this day, then, how nice.
Your girl already took the initiative to do some shopping, lucky you to have a girl take the initiative like that. If she already did that it doesn’t seem like she really minds you not having money and instead just wants to spend another nice evening with you. Enjoy!
You have bought her things that you know she will enjoy, why worry? If not, use creativity. A card made by you, not bought. Cook something, and so on. She may understand your situation and not make a drama about it.
Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day?
IMO, No. Unless she's very demanding and very spoil. Sometimes her man wants to spoil her and that's good. It's the event itself, not the person. It's more challenging if that was the case. I was listening to the radio this morning, and the guy was saying how most men are stress, not because it is valentine's day, but he mentioned something about men making mistakes.
Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)
I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.
What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month
Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
Your gift seems sweet and very nice, when she listens to GAGA she will think of you
It seems you gave from your heart
that is the best gift
I bought my boyfriend some cologne, I have no idea what he has for me?
Love was one of the flowers from a bouquet he sent me after he met me -- crushed up as 'natures confetti.' He couldn't believe I'd kept them.
Another thing about letters is after my grandmother died, I got a hold of all the letters my grandfather had sent my grandmother while he was overseas in WWII. One was especially emotional and beautiful and it was the letter he sent her for Valentine's Day. I cried when I read it - it was a beautiful letter and I consider it one of my most treasured keepsakes.
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