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Have you recently gained weight and noticed that you were treated different? For example, you have worked at your job for 10 years but in the last year or so you may have put on 25 pounds or more, and all of a sudden, your review score isn't as high as it once was, you are passed over for promotions, no one tells you how nice you look or compliments a new outfit, and your boss doesn't take as much notice of you and doesn't chat friendly with you as he/she once did. Has anyone experienced this treatment by your boss and co-workers?
Yes when I gained weight with my pregnancies it always took a little longer than I would have liked to loose it. But I realized that it wasn't really about the weight, it was about how I carried myself. My self-esteem was negatively affected and therefore I was not my vibrant self. Even now that I'm a little "juicier" than I usually am I don't see a difference on how people treat me because I feel good about myself regardless.
Yes when I gained weight with my pregnancies it always took a little longer than I would have liked to loose it. But I realized that it wasn't really about the weight, it was about how I carried myself. My self-esteem was negatively affected and therefore I was not my vibrant self. Even now that I'm a little "juicier" than I usually am I don't see a difference on how people treat me because I feel good about myself regardless.
Good point. It does have a lot to do with self-perception.
I have noticed that a lot of people are more forgiving of women gaining with pregnancy or not losing weight soon enough right after pregnancy than they are with women or men who gain weight for "no reason". It seems that people who are overweight are seen as less energetic and less intelligent than their slimmer counterparts... IMHO.
I had just the opposite happen to me. I recently have lost 52 lbs. and people talk to me and smile at me who never did before. It makes me angry to have people notice me who would walk right over the top of me before. I am not a different person. It isn't even just the men. It's the women too.
I had just the opposite happen to me. I recently have lost 52 lbs. and people talk to me and smile at me who never did before. It makes me angry to have people notice me who would walk right over the top of me before. I am not a different person. It isn't even just the men. It's the women too.
Interesting. Well now you know who is "real" and who is your friend on certain conditions.
Wow, Northcountrygirl, congratulations on losing that much! I can't even manage to lose 25 pounds.
Actually, it is amazing how "invisible" overweight people are in this country. Considering that 14 is the average size now, that attitude is wrong.
To answer the original question, I don't notice anyone treating me differently, but that's because I gained weight very slowly (and am losing it very slowly as well ), and it wasn't a vast amount - 30 lbs over a period of about 5 years, I think.
I haven't gained any wieght but i bought a cool hat a few weeks ago and it seems people are saying hi to me a lot more than they did before.
I'm 20 pounds over what i think I should be, I never notice anyone treating me differant.
Oh YES!!!! I have always been thin. When I got married I started to gain weight (I gained 60 pounds). Anyways, I lost all of the weight last year. But during my heavy size I noticed that people treated me differently. Especially the men (big time). Like, less doors being opened for me. Maybe they don't say excuse me. Stuff like that. You are definitely treated differently. It's pretty interesting.
I saw a couple of shows on this. Where they have beautiful women dress up in fat suits and it is shocking to see how they are treated compared to when they are normal.
I strongly agree with Moonsavvy. It is about the way you carry yourself and not really about the weight. I have experienced it, if my attitude is poor I dont feel people giving me attention, the minute i turn my attitude around and feel like a queen, i am treated like one.
just my opinion though!
I had just the opposite happen to me. I recently have lost 52 lbs. and people talk to me and smile at me who never did before. It makes me angry to have people notice me who would walk right over the top of me before. I am not a different person. It isn't even just the men. It's the women too.
Those people who gravitate toward you now, I would say, they have a great big neon sign on their forheads that say "BEWARE"
Honey, you are beautiful regardless of what you look like....you are a very special person in your own being....always remember that...
Hugs to ya...
Creme
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), and it wasn't a vast amount - 30 lbs over a period of about 5 years, I think.
