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Okay, here's the situation, I was having a conversation about unions with my aunt. We disagree on the subject. Anyway, her daughter tried to insert herself into the discussion, telling me I should "back off". I explained to her that just because her mother and I disagreed on the subject, it did not mean that we hated each other or anything. I had no desire to be contentious, but we disagreed on the subject. That does not mean that we do not find agreement on other subjects.
What do you do when someone tries to insert themselves into a conversation you're having with someone else?
Okay, here's the situation, I was having a conversation about unions with my aunt. We disagree on the subject. Anyway, her daughter tried to insert herself into the discussion, telling me I should "back off". I explained to her that just because her mother and I disagreed on the subject, it did not mean that we hated each other or anything. I had no desire to be contentious, but we disagreed on the subject. That does not mean that we do not find agreement on other subjects.
What do you do when someone tries to insert themselves into a conversation you're having with someone else?
She might have thought your discussion was getting too heated and saw you as attacking her mother. Different people have different levels of comfort during debate.
Okay, here's the situation, I was having a conversation about unions with my aunt. We disagree on the subject. Anyway, her daughter tried to insert herself into the discussion, telling me I should "back off". I explained to her that just because her mother and I disagreed on the subject, it did not mean that we hated each other or anything. I had no desire to be contentious, but we disagreed on the subject. That does not mean that we do not find agreement on other subjects.
What do you do when someone tries to insert themselves into a conversation you're having with someone else?
I take it as an opportunity to remind them of manners and how mature people can agree to disagree without taking it personal.
She might have thought your discussion was getting too heated and saw you as attacking her mother. Different people have different levels of comfort during debate.
That's the thing though--why do some people see an attack on their views as a personal attack on themselves? I told her that I saw her mother as the "cool aunt", as she was only ten years older than me, whereas my other aunts were closer to my own mother's age. We just disagreed on this point...and realistically, it wasn't any of her business anyhow.
That's the thing though--why do some people see an attack on their views as a personal attack on themselves? I told her that I saw her mother as the "cool aunt", as she was only ten years older than me, whereas my other aunts were closer to my own mother's age. We just disagreed on this point...and realistically, it wasn't any of her business anyhow.
Sometimes people are just at an impasse and one person will not let it go. At that point it becomes personal because you are bludgeoning them with your side even though they don't want to talk about it anymore and it becomes uncomfortable.
I doubt your cousin would have said anything at all if you were talking about the subject in the same tone as you would the daily weather report.
Last edited by Citrine Summer; 02-19-2011 at 03:27 PM..
She might have thought your discussion was getting too heated and saw you as attacking her mother. Different people have different levels of comfort during debate.
Okay, here's the situation, I was having a conversation about unions with my aunt. We disagree on the subject. Anyway, her daughter tried to insert herself into the discussion, telling me I should "back off". I explained to her that just because her mother and I disagreed on the subject, it did not mean that we hated each other or anything. I had no desire to be contentious, but we disagreed on the subject. That does not mean that we do not find agreement on other subjects.
What do you do when someone tries to insert themselves into a conversation you're having with someone else?
I would probably have told her that while its cool that she wants to protect her mom, her mother can hold her own.
If the conversation was becoming heated, I could see her telling you to back off, but if it was just a low key debate, with no anger, I don't know what her problem is.,unless her mother is very frail, or can't hold her own, she has no right to butt in.....her mother should have said something.
If you were being offensive (in the eyes of your cousin) she might feel protective of her mother without heated debate.
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