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Met a girl and been going out as "friends" for the last 3 weeks, Iv'e been interested in going out with her as more than friends but she seemed to give mixed messages abotu what she wants. Finally on the 4th week she comes out and says she likes me alot and has "fallen for me" and didn't know she couldv'e developed such feelings for me but it's happened, but she is so confused because she's come out of a ****ty relationship and has no idea what to think about what. Then she tells me she doesn't wan't me to wait for her to be ready and to find someone who will make her happy. i tell her without sounding desparate that I think we have something really great going and I don't mind giving her space and time to work herself out and that I'd like to take things as slow as she want's. She still seems reluctant and thinks I shouldn't bother waiting for her. Now what?
Sounds like she's not really sure how she feels. If she just got out a bad relationship and is confused, she's probably confused - and you're likely a rebound.
Met a girl and been going out as "friends" for the last 3 weeks, Iv'e been interested in going out with her as more than friends but she seemed to give mixed messages abotu what she wants. Finally on the 4th week she comes out and says she likes me alot and has "fallen for me" and didn't know she couldv'e developed such feelings for me but it's happened, but she is so confused because she's come out of a ****ty relationship and has no idea what to think about what. Then she tells me she doesn't wan't me to wait for her to be ready and to find someone who will make her happy. i tell her without sounding desparate that I think we have something really great going and I don't mind giving her space and time to work herself out and that I'd like to take things as slow as she want's. She still seems reluctant and thinks I shouldn't bother waiting for her. Now what?
Don't wait for her. She's messed up right now and you will only provide a small amount of relief and nothing more... until she finally ends all communication with you... then you'll be back her asking what happened.
Women use all kinds of tactics, and can come up with millions of excuses to not want to see a guy anymore. Some like this one are pretty good, letting the guy think she is into you, but really is rejecting you.
your job as a man, is to find the woman with the least amount of crazy in her.
i think you can do better than this one
seriously though, it sounds like she doesnt know what she wants. i wouldnt put too much into her though. at least not at this point, especially if she just got out of a bad/ long relationship
I guess if you really like her you can be there for her as a friend only ,for now.Maybe, after just getting out of a real bad relationship, she can't believe that a man can be so nice to her. Maybe her reluctance is because she doesn't really know if you want to be "just a friend", and that's all she's ready for right now.Her telling you not to bother waiting for her, is probabley her giving you an out ,if you want it.She's been hurt, you can help her heal, and be her friend, or you can walk away.
This reminds me of a girl I took out on a first date to dinner. At the end of dinner, she couldn't stop telling me how much fun she had and was so worried I wouldn't call her the next day. She was very convincing. Then the next day came, I called her and got no answer. I tried again a few days later, but no response. Finally I gave up and never heard from her again.
Some girls will tell you exactly what you want to hear, then do the opposite.
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