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Old 03-11-2011, 02:41 PM
 
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This is something I can't stand. I hate it when this happens.

Example: When I'm eating with other people and they ask each other if they're ready to go, but they don't even bother to ask me (this has happened at least twice with at least 2 different groups of people).

With one of the groups, I wasn't ready yet so they were essentially ditching me. I have a feeling when they asked each other if they were ready to go, it was a rhetorical question and it was already decided the answer was yes. And they didn't care about my input.

With another group, I was glad to leave because I didn't even like one of the guys I was sitting with. Why was I sitting with him if I don't like him, you might ask? Long story. Unfortunately, my friends befriended him.

But the fact that I was glad to leave and get away from him is not the point. The point is he was acting like I wasn't there.

In my mind, I was sitting with them. But apparently in their mind I was just someone that happened to be sitting at the same table but not with them.

Another example: At a football game, I was with a group of people. I was watching the game, then I looked over and they were leaving. They didn't even bother to say anything to me.

I was thinking of saying "Way to let me know you're leaving"

Once again, apparently in their mind I wasn't with them and I was just someone that happened to be in the same area as them.
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Old 03-11-2011, 02:44 PM
 
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ahhh.....a city_data91 thread, let me get comfortable, and get my popcorn
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Old 03-11-2011, 02:49 PM
 
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Are you sure your friends are really your friends? Or are you sure your acquaintances really enjoy being acquainted with you?
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Old 03-11-2011, 02:55 PM
 
Location: St. Louis
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I had that happen a couple of times when I was younger so I didn't hang out with them any more. It's called a total lack of respect.
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Old 03-11-2011, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Stepka, I agree with you on this. city_data, if those people don't acknowledge your company and aren't courteous enough to let you know that they're leaving, then don't hang out with them. Plain and simple. A real friend will make you feel included and part of the group.
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Old 03-11-2011, 03:24 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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Stepka, I agree with you on this. city_data, if those people don't acknowledge your company and aren't courteous enough to let you know that they're leaving, then don't hang out with them. Plain and simple. A real friend will make you feel included and part of the group.
I agree. Why the heck would you hang with people like this? Get yourself some new friends.
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Old 03-11-2011, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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This is something I can't stand. I hate it when this happens.

Example: When I'm eating with other people and they ask each other if they're ready to go, but they don't even bother to ask me (this has happened at least twice with at least 2 different groups of people).

With one of the groups, I wasn't ready yet so they were essentially ditching me. I have a feeling when they asked each other if they were ready to go, it was a rhetorical question and it was already decided the answer was yes. And they didn't care about my input.

With another group, I was glad to leave because I didn't even like one of the guys I was sitting with. Why was I sitting with him if I don't like him, you might ask? Long story. Unfortunately, my friends befriended him.

But the fact that I was glad to leave and get away from him is not the point. The point is he was acting like I wasn't there.

In my mind, I was sitting with them. But apparently in their mind I was just someone that happened to be sitting at the same table but not with them.

Another example: At a football game, I was with a group of people. I was watching the game, then I looked over and they were leaving. They didn't even bother to say anything to me.

I was thinking of saying "Way to let me know you're leaving"

Once again, apparently in their mind I wasn't with them and I was just someone that happened to be in the same area as them.
Thats when you use your mouth and speak up!
I guess you could offer to drive them to dinner or the games...that way, they will have to acknowledge you, instead of just getting up to leave you sitting there!
Seriously, I agree with the others...find new friends!
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Old 03-11-2011, 06:36 PM
 
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Is this something that happened in middle school or more recently?
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Old 03-11-2011, 06:39 PM
 
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Thats when you use your mouth and speak up!
I guess you could offer to drive them to dinner or the games...that way, they will have to acknowledge you, instead of just getting up to leave you sitting there!
Seriously, I agree with the others...find new friends!
We were eating on campus and the games are on campus, so there was no need to drive. And you don't need to wait for your bill in the dining hall, you just get up and leave whenever you want. So this makes it convenient for people to ditch me.

And I don't have a car anyway. When we go too far off campus, I need a ride so I feel like a burden.

Some of these people I don't hang out with anymore.

Some more examples:

1. I went to Subway with a friend and I just assumed it was implied that we were eating there. I thought that was the whole point of going to Subway with him...I thought it would be a social activity. But after we got our sandwiches, I found out he got his food to go. I don't know where he needed to be or what he needed to do that was more important than me.

If he had to go somewhere, I'd understand, but you'd think he would say something ahead of time.

2. There was a time when I was hanging out with 2 girls and one girl said to the other girl "let's go."

It's like they were in their own world despite the fact that I was with them
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Old 03-11-2011, 06:42 PM
 
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Is this something that happened in middle school or more recently?
college
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