For the well being of my heart...? (boyfriend, how to, female)
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Can anyone tell me how to be impervious to foolish and unrational emotions of the heart?
basically, to act strong until im actually able to be strong...
take this however u want, im not really 110% on how to put this in words exactly, i just dnt want to appear as "weak" to my boyfriend anymore. In my mind, its the hugest turn off nd i think he's getting sick of it, nd i DNT blame him...
its annoying nd a hassle to the both of us.
PLEASE help. nd plz no stupid comments....or go for it
What is going on when you're getting upset? I'm sure you're not that way all the time so think about what it is that's upsetting you, is it a specific relationship issue? It could be the issue at hand or it could a form of insecurity. I would think about what it is that's upsetting me and go from there.
its totally insecurity bt it came completely out of nowhere!
nd i cnt control it.
nd its been bothering him alot lately(like i said, i DNT blame him)
nd then i get upset bc he seems upset about it.
its insane like a rollercoaster nd i just need to block that off bt idk how
You are trying too hard to be "good for him" and when you don't get a large amount of positive reactions from him you probably feel that he doesn't like you as much as he used to. And then that probably feeds into your paranoia and insecurity. Then you try harder, and the cycle gets worse.
What you should really do is stop trying so hard to be "good for him" and try more to be an independent person so you can be a good team. Just concentrate on your own things and your own activities for awhile. Everytime you start thinking about foolish stuff you have to stop yourself. You can't say that you can't control this, because nobody else will control it for you!
Go hang out with some of your female friends! Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You are trying too hard to be "good for him" and when you don't get a large amount of positive reactions from him you probably feel that he doesn't like you as much as he used to. And then that probably feeds into your paranoia and insecurity. Then you try harder, and the cycle gets worse.
What you should really do is stop trying so hard to be "good for him" and try more to be an independent person so you can be a good team. Just concentrate on your own things and your own activities for awhile. Everytime you start thinking about foolish stuff you have to stop yourself. You can't say that you can't control this, because nobody else will control it for you!
Go hang out with some of your female friends! Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You are trying too hard to be "good for him" and when you don't get a large amount of positive reactions from him you probably feel that he doesn't like you as much as he used to. And then that probably feeds into your paranoia and insecurity. Then you try harder, and the cycle gets worse.
What you should really do is stop trying so hard to be "good for him" and try more to be an independent person so you can be a good team. Just concentrate on your own things and your own activities for awhile. Everytime you start thinking about foolish stuff you have to stop yourself. You can't say that you can't control this, because nobody else will control it for you!
Go hang out with some of your female friends! Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
however this whole insecurity nd being dependent on him thing is bc of an issue that happend with my mom. she kicked me out bc her bf started a fight with me nd threatened to get his sister to "kick my ass" nd my mom defended him nd kicked me out...
i kno thats bad bt thats exactly what im trying ti fix...
however this whole insecurity nd being dependent on him thing is bc of an issue that happend with my mom. she kicked me out bc her bf started a fight with me nd threatened to get his sister to "kick my ass" nd my mom defended him nd kicked me out...
i kno thats bad bt thats exactly what im trying ti fix...
i bounce back nd forth between my grandma nd my sisters house
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