If your friend had feelings for a girl, do you get a bit jealous and develope feelings as well? (conversation, looking)

[cheeerioS]

If you see that your friend likes a girl. And being the good friend that you, you help encourage the girl into liking your friend .. But I have to ask along the way (you, the friend) do you think it is easy to start developing feelings for the girl as well (because you get to know the girl more and more while trying to encourage her in liking your friend?)

I ask this because the guy I like is so deathly shy, and yes I do like him back (and no, I still refuse to make the first move, someone told me that he'd find it a turnoff if I made the first move because I am being overtly aggressive... So Im waiting patiently). But last week I met one of the friends (of the shy guy that I like), and at first I could tell that the friend was trying to push me, and encourage me into talking and liking the 'shy guy.' His friend is very easy going and easy to talk to. But Ive notice recently he too has been acting differently, and has been pushing me less (into liking his friend), and has been a bit more forward and flirtaeous himself.

Im confused as heck, because I feel like I waiting for the shy guy to do something and make the first move. But a different part of me is sick and tired of having to wait, Ive started to become a bit more less patient, and hence feel guilty for looking the other way (and towards the direction of his friend, because Im actually having a conversation with the guy, cause he isnt so darn shy. And because the friend is outgoing, hence Im starting to forget about the shy guy, because Im interactin with the friend instead).

[Big-Bad-John]

Originally Posted by cheeerioS

If you see that your friend likes a girl. And being the good friend that you, you help encourage the girl into liking your friend .. But I have to ask along the way (you, the friend) do you think it is easy to start developing feelings for the girl as well (because you get to know the girl more and more while trying to encourage her in liking your friend?)

I ask this because the guy I like is so deathly shy, and yes I do like him back (and no, I still refuse to make the first move, someone told me that he'd find it a turnoff if I made the first move because I am being overtly aggressive... So Im waiting patiently). But last week I met one of the friends (of the shy guy that I like), and at first I could tell that the friend was trying to push me, and encourage me into talking and liking the 'shy guy.' His friend is very easy going and easy to talk to. But Ive notice recently he too has been acting differently, and has been pushing me less (into liking his friend), and has been a bit more forward and flirtaeous himself.

Im confused as heck, because I feel like I waiting for the shy guy to do something and make the first move. But a different part of me is sick and tired of having to wait, Ive started to become a bit more less patient, and hence feel guilty for looking the other way (and towards the direction of his friend, because Im actually having a conversation with the guy, cause he isnt so darn shy. And because the friend is outgoing, hence Im starting to forget about the shy guy, because Im interactin with the friend instead).

I've never had that happen to me. It has happened to other gals that liked me though. They didn't even consider you until a popular and lovable one took notice at first. Then it's let's get on the same page! The trouble is that I remember the originals first!

[bouncethelight]

Originally Posted by cheeerioS

Im starting to forget about the shy guy, because Im interactin with the friend instead).

That happens! And you don't "owe" the shy guy anything at this point, so if you're more interested in the friend, there's nothing stopping you from pursuing that.