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Old 04-27-2011, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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There's a guy at work I cannot stop thinking about. I do feel like I get some vibes from him, but I am not completely sure. At one point, he looked right at me and we definitely locked eyes for a split second longer than what is okay in polite society. He has also shown some other signs of seeming interested, but they are so subtle that I do not know if he just thinks I'm another cute girl walking around or if this is something I should take seriously.

He seems very reserved in general to everyone and I know he feels stressed already as he is an intern (I work at a hospital). But, he has said a few things to me here and there. To make things worse, I am new at this workplace and I can feel a little bit out of place at times so I can get a little bit aloof and reserved myself. I have been told that I can come off cold and hard to get to know. I really have not gone out of my way to say anything to him either honestly. These sideways glances and vibes have been going on since August- the first time I noticed him. The second time we saw each other he pretty much stared at me the whole time- I was completely unnerved by the shock of this guy staring at me to look back and on top of that-was too busy trying to focus as we were in the ER and there was a level 1 trauma going on in front of us needing to be taken care of.

Throughout all of these months I have seen him on and off, here and there. Sometimes weeks have gone by before I see him. I have backed off totally mostly because I feel like if he was interested he would have said something by now-sent me a work email or stopped me in the hallway or asked my coworker about me. I really try to make it seem like I am not interested because I feel like a fool being interested in a guy that doesn't reciprocate. My coworker tells me that maybe he is just intimidated. I say that most people, including guys, usually want to get what they want and aren't going to wait. Right now I am seeing him pretty regularly. I don't know what to think or say or do, if I should at at all. I still feel if he likes me more than just thinks I'm cute, he'll say something, right? Keep in mind that I also feel incredibly sheepish about this whole thing. I barely know who this guy is outside of how attracted I feel towards him and the fact that he is a resident at the hospital I work at. I am rarely this viscerally attracted to someone so this is a big deal to me.

So basically, what I am trying to ask if do men indeed become intimidated by women or is this something women tell themselves to lessen the pain of rejection?
OMG....I'm going through something like that myself right now!!! I like this guy at my job (I work retail) but the problem is that I only work there a few months out the year during college breaks. The guy and I talked briefly before and he always says hi to me when I see him at work. Plus I've also caught the guy staring at me from far distances in the store. I don't want to overanalyze things like I normally do but I don't want to miss an opportunity at the same time. What to do, what to do?? I'm gonna see how things are this summer working there again and see if he asks me out on a date or something. Hope so!

You should definitely try and strike up a conversation with the intern first.
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Old 02-27-2015, 04:04 PM
 
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yes guys ca be intimidated by a really attractive woman, espeially if u come out as cold. He seems like he is too shy to approach u .. the best thing to do with shy guys is drop little hints that u like them....dont say it right away though. Build a casual relationship w him nd once he gets comfortable aound u im sure he'll begin speaking up about his feelings towards u nd i find it really offensive when saying he needs to grow some balls like its ok to be a shy person just like girls sometimes are scared to approach hot guys loll
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Old 02-28-2015, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Pa
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For many just talk to them like they are a human being.
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Old 02-28-2015, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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For many just talk to them like they are a human being.
Easier said than done. Some guys who are shy don't interact with women at all.
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Old 02-28-2015, 04:29 PM
 
Location: St. Catharines, ON
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Definitely. I'll never understand why, but it's definitely true.
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Old 02-28-2015, 09:38 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Easier said than done. Some guys who are shy don't interact with women at all.
That's true I guess it works better if you can just pick up and talk about anything.
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Old 08-27-2019, 08:34 PM
 
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Unfortunately its not on youtube but Robert Pattinson on Leno with Heidi Klum was great. Be awkward
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Old 08-27-2019, 11:07 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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I can only think of 3 women I've ever been intimidated by, the first was the love of my life. The other two were both incredibly beautiful and tall (taller than me.)

Men are not intimidated by women otherwise.

However, men are dumb and can't read subtle hints. I've lost count of the number of times I've missed an opportunity because I didn't realise a woman was interested. You have to be obvious.

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Old 08-28-2019, 03:32 PM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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i've only asked maybe 10 girls for their number in my life of which 5 were successful. its a lot of work to pretend to be clever and not corny and have something coherent to talk about. fear of embarrassment and awkwardness.
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i find it really offensive when saying he needs to grow some balls like its ok to be a shy person just like girls sometimes are scared to approach hot guys loll
big up; i get stage-frite on conference calls at work. i dont think its because i dont have balls or arent a real man.
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Old 08-29-2019, 07:48 PM
 
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I can only think of 3 women I've ever been intimidated by, the first was the love of my life. The other two were both incredibly beautiful and tall (taller than me.)

Men are not intimidated by women otherwise.

However, men are dumb and can't read subtle hints. I've lost count of the number of times I've missed an opportunity because I didn't realise a woman was interested. You have to be obvious.
I've had women that I've been intimidated by. It's not so much their looks as it is their personality. The ones that were more "intimidating" to me had that "I will bite your head off at any second for any reason." vibe about them.
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