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Old 04-04-2011, 11:12 AM
 
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Let me elaborate. While at work I was thinking (instead of working). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:18 AM
 
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I have noticed that some of the most average looking people can sometimes be the most critical when it comes to looks. I'm sure there is some simple psychological explanation for this, something having to do with revenge and self-loathing. That said, when it comes to actual love and life partner choices I think looks have little to do with it. Just look around you.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:23 AM
 
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I have noticed that some of the most average looking people can sometimes be the most critical when it comes to looks. I'm sure there is some simple psychological explanation for this, something having to do with revenge and self-loathing. That said, when it comes to actual love and life partner choices I think looks have little to do with it. Just look around you.
I agree. I've seen gorgeous man with plain women and beautiful women with average men. It's love and what the person is inside that counts and these people realize what true love is and their compatibility to each other.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:26 AM
 
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You've got too much time on your hands.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:26 AM
 
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Everyone has a right to want whatever they want. They don't necessarily have a right to get what they want. However, a physically unattractive person may have other great qualities that will attract a discerning, attractive person. I certainly see plenty of physically mismatched couples every day, who seem quite content together. Overall, though, and generally speaking, most people end up with someone who is similar to them on the attractiveness scale.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:28 AM
 
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People tend to hook up with people that are as attracive or unattractive as themselves - in other words, most couples are similarly matched. It's scientific. Studies HAVE been done.

Reality and likelihood of success aside, of course "ugly" people have the "right" to want whomever they want. Whether or not one should be associating a person's worth with physical attractiveness and devising "leagues" is a whole other ballgame. Seems rather shallow to me.

Here is one case study on the scientific reality that "like attracts like": http://www.elainehatfield.com/ch108.pdf

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Old 04-04-2011, 11:32 AM
 
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I agree wit donie1!!!
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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I agree. I've seen gorgeous man with plain women and beautiful women with average men. It's love and what the person is inside that counts and these people realize what true love is and their compatibility to each other.
Yeah its called the movies..90% of couples are pretty near each other on the attractivneess scale unless somebody has allot of money fame or status to balance things out..
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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Let me elaborate. While at work I was thinking (instead of working). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.

When I met my boyfriend..He told me he thought I didn't want to see him again. He said he was outta my league? Don't where that came from? He said I was beautiful. I appreciate the compliment, but no he wasn't outta my league, he was sexy, intelligent, beautiful, and a confident man to me. He said he was surprised I agreed to see him again? I told him only ignorant men aren't worth it. I don't think Im outta anyones league. Some people I just won't date, it isn't because they are outta my league only they aren't the type I'd date.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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Like said elsewhere, Water seeks out it's own level. The rightous may deny it, but it is almost as true as physics.
It does seem very awkward when you see someone that is plain ugly with someone very attracive.
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