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So that was another brilliant idea which went down the tubes?
It only went down the tubes because I came here and bragged about it and the girl I went on a date with knew someone on this site. That was my stupidity
Everyone knows there are other fish in the sea. But if you're happy with your current fish, who cares?
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This. There are always other guys (or fish in the sea) but that doesn't mean that a woman is willing to break out the gear and go fishing to continue that metaphor a bit further.
Plenty of women (even attractive women) in relationships let their men get by with too much "messing up" before they begin to even be aware that there might be "other guys" waiting in the wings. These loyal women aren't interested in those hypothetical men when they are involved a relationship that's good, fair or even an unpromising one. Read the threads on CD from women agonizing over why their BF, SO or husband doesn't love them or treat them well and yet they are still 100% in the relationship without any reciprocity, rowing the boat with one oar.
The guy in the wings might be a factual generality but the devil lives in the details. Life and love is messy. Anyone with experience will have had dating disasters, one sided love affairs, unrequited crushes, near misses, bad timing, lovers better left as friendships and then finally with blind luck a good match appears when very least expected but when both parties are ready for it. At least that's how it happened for me.
Theorizing about generalities is all well and good but too much of it keeps one in the realm of theory and tends to exclude the more ambiguous, fragile and subtle practice of a thing where all the agony and joy lives.
It only went down the tubes because I came here and bragged about it and the girl I went on a date with knew someone on this site. That was my stupidity
Yeah, but with the practice dates you were using people with no regard to their feelings. You could have had a gf in that girl and you blow it.
It only went down the tubes because I came here and bragged about it and the girl I went on a date with knew someone on this site. That was my stupidity
That's funny as hell. I've never met anyone who has ever mentioned this website, but still, very funny.
I would say it's very common women will already have another option by the time they decide to end a relationship, but as for always having a guy in the wings I think that's a little far fetched.
Women can hold onto relationships longer with a guy they've been with a while and dislike. They do this so that they can build up their resentment toward you so much that when they finally let you go they are so disgusted with you at that point that they cannot even fathom taking you back. It also gives them plenty of time for another man to come into her life and relieve her of the insecurity of being single. Many women cannot handle being single very well if they are used to always being in relationships.
Which is why when I'm dating a girl or in a relationship with a girl and she ends it, I know its already over. I don't beg, I don't "discuss it", I don't even want to know the reason why. I just want to know how long it will take her to get her **** out of my apt and that's the end of it. I'll enter my sadness process, be bummed for a week, get wasted maybe one of those nights, and then my life will go on. It's not too uncommon that these women will reach back out to me weeks or months afterward and fish for my interest in getting back together, at which I ask myself this question: is she worth just hooking up with/booty calling once in a while or is she going to cause me more hassle than she is worth?
It only went down the tubes because I came here and bragged about it and the girl I went on a date with knew someone on this site. That was my stupidity
I'll agree. Was that a practice date or a real date. TV?
I think the original statement is often true. The woman doesn't have a man waiting in the wings, but there is usually a man who will take the opportunity to move in on a woman who becomes available. This is especially true for those women who are considered attractive.
Many women have told me they never break up till they have a new man to fall on. The women do not want to be without a date Friday night.
They're not "women", they're "girls". And if they're of adult age and still have that mindset then you're mixing with a juvenile subset and might look at broadening your horizons a little. Just saying!
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Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy
It only went down the tubes because I came here and bragged about it and the girl I went on a date with knew someone on this site. That was my stupidity
Yes indeed, Grasshopper! Over the past few years you've been reminded several times by several contributors that what you write on the internet stays in cyberspace for ever. You live in a metropolitan hub and have written enough about yourself that many things you would doubtless have preferred remained hidden have been "outed" through your own words. Ergo, totally NOT surprising that the "date" would know someone who recognized you - and doubtless she is one of many.
I urge you again, for the millionth and one time that you find a real social setting in the real world which will enable you to develop your social skills and deal with people/women face to face as opposed to all this internet dating nonsense which is getting you absolutely nowhere. Better late than never, sweet pea.
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