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Why is it that so many people think that love needs to be returned to be called love. Why is it so hard for some people to make the distinction between loving and being in love?
I think it is because the word is so overused, today. We say we love something, when we can't possibly, since the object is inanimate. I hear it all the time. I love Coffee. I love tea, When in reality they enjoy both of these products. They would not say they enjoy a person. The connotation of that are quite clear, but they could enjoy that person's company.
Love is a simple thing and it is simple to give. You express love for your fellow man for doing considerate things for them. Holding open a door or asking if you can assist them, when not required by a position of employment, for instance.
This is what some would call Christian love, but it is not confined to any one religion. Consideration is worldwide, but not human wide. There are those who are simply oblivious to the concept. They are those who are self centered and wouldn't go out of their way, for anyone. I have people in my family like this. I don't go out of my way to ignore these people, but I don't flock to them when they are in need either. The expression of love is lost on them and they are incapable of appreciating anything done for them. It is only when they are in need that they suddenly acquire manners. Go figure!
To me, love is the appreciation of others and the concern for their well being.
If one sees hurt in another, to empathizes with those who feel it, because we ourselves have known the sensation, is to show that person love. It is not a physical love, but love of the spirit.
Too many people mistake love for sex and anyone who has had sex for sport knows the difference. Prostitution is a stark reminder of this very concept.
The idea of being in love as opposed to loving is the emphasis is different.
You express love outwardly when you love others, but when you are in love, you focus on your needs. This is not being self centered, since you look for someone to share your life with and become something greater than yourself.
This goes beyond the physical and enters deeply into who we are at our core and what we admire and what we lack in ourselves. It is enrichment of our own being, by cementing a bond with another soul which is collectively beneficial to each other.
I can tell you what love is not - "love is not touchy, fretful or resentful. Love does not keep track of the wrongs suffered."
Love is endures when there is no basis for hope. Love sees the good even if it is hard to do. Love is a force to be reckoned with- evil cannot stand in its path...
I can tell you what love is not - "love is not touchy, fretful or resentful. Love does not keep track of the wrongs suffered."
Love is endures when there is no basis for hope. Love sees the good even if it is hard to do. Love is a force to be reckoned with- evil cannot stand in its path...
That is certainly the ideal.
I could have used a bit more clarification. Thinking of the many 'self-help' books that I read and all the discussions on this topic that were related to being assertive, not being too 'needy' and accepting that 'He is just not that into you.'
'Love others as yourself'.
First, love yourself in healthy ways --that is an important concept that was somewhat overlooked for many.
I marvel that some, 'many' families understand this and pass the secret on.
My own family ---well, we have a lot to forgive ourselves for and even with decades of practice ---we have 'miles to go'.
I'll toss this in--feeling devilish today---how moral is 'Love'?
There are many different kind of love. We don't love spouses the same as we our children. We don't love strangers or outsiders the same as we do our families. We don't love our animals the same as we do our children or spouses, although some would argue that.
There are millions of ways of expressing love; a touch, or look, or word of comfort, etc..
I 'love' that Dawn commercial with the baby animals. It warms my heart.
I 'love' the way the sun looks when it shines through the leaves on a maple tree.
I 'love' my outer family because they belong to me.
I 'love' my inner family because they are who I live for.
Why is it that so many people think that love needs to be returned to be called love. Why is it so hard for some people to make the distinction between loving and being in love?
I think it is because the word is so overused, today. We say we love something, when we can't possibly, since the object is inanimate. I hear it all the time. I love Coffee. I love tea, When in reality they enjoy both of these products. They would not say they enjoy a person. The connotation of that are quite clear, but they could enjoy that person's company.
Love is a simple thing and it is simple to give. You express love for your fellow man for doing considerate things for them. Holding open a door or asking if you can assist them, when not required by a position of employment, for instance.
This is what some would call Christian love, but it is not confined to any one religion. Consideration is worldwide, but not human wide. There are those who are simply oblivious to the concept. They are those who are self centered and wouldn't go out of their way, for anyone. I have people in my family like this. I don't go out of my way to ignore these people, but I don't flock to them when they are in need either. The expression of love is lost on them and they are incapable of appreciating anything done for them. It is only when they are in need that they suddenly acquire manners. Go figure!
To me, love is the appreciation of others and the concern for their well being.
If one sees hurt in another, to empathizes with those who feel it, because we ourselves have known the sensation, is to show that person love. It is not a physical love, but love of the spirit.
Too many people mistake love for sex and anyone who has had sex for sport knows the difference. Prostitution is a stark reminder of this very concept.
The idea of being in love as opposed to loving is the emphasis is different.
You express love outwardly when you love others, but when you are in love, you focus on your needs. This is not being self centered, since you look for someone to share your life with and become something greater than yourself.
This goes beyond the physical and enters deeply into who we are at our core and what we admire and what we lack in ourselves. It is enrichment of our own being, by cementing a bond with another soul which is collectively beneficial to each other.
The emotion we call love is a chemical result in our brain, bottom line. Whatever chemical balance we may have will influence how we act on that emotion and use it towards others and how we feel when others act on it with us.
We also have that ability on us to think, reason, etc. and depending how our personality and character are shaped in conjunction with our chemical brain composition will influence how "we love" others, how we are "in love", etc.
I do not believe there will be a single most appropriate definition of love and a all incluse and accurate criteria on love also, take care.
The emotion we call love is a chemical result in our brain, bottom line. Whatever chemical balance we may have will influence how we act on that emotion and use it towards others and how we feel when others act on it with us.
We also have that ability on us to think, reason, etc. and depending how our personality and character are shaped in conjunction with our chemical brain composition will influence how "we love" others, how we are "in love", etc.
I do not believe there will be a single most appropriate definition of love and a all incluse and accurate criteria on love also, take care.
Yes--the 'ability to think, reason'---much more could be said about that aspect of love--prior to learning the 12 steps--'loving too much', etc--'Loving too well but not wisely', if you will.
'Feelings'---there are times that I need a 'refresher'--this works for me.
Thank you, I actually came in here to post that, bwahahahahaha!
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