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Thank you! As a black woman, that is so insulting to me. I am not some trophy, prize, experiment, fantasy, contest, etc, etc. I am a decent, normal, red-blooded American woman, who deserves to be romanced or courted just like any other woman. Regardless of race. Some men need to get that through their heads. The ones that think black women (or other ethnic) women are just curiosity "things" they can go watch that type of porn and be alone!
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Maybe if your 14.....
I would like to think a smart and decent man would go for any woman, for much smarter and better reasons then that.
Thank you! As a black woman, that is so insulting to me. I am not some trophy, prize, experiment, fantasy, contest, etc, etc. I am a decent, normal, red-blooded American woman, who deserves to be romanced or courted just like any other woman. Regardless of race. Some men need to get that through their heads. The ones that think black women (or other ethnic) women are just curiosity "things" they can go watch that type of porn and be alone!
Of course the white guy is not going to admit it-lol But it's the truth.
yes those creeps exist. but it's very disrespectful. And not a laughing matter. when your daughter wants to date a black man "for sexual fantasy" reasons, we'll see how you like it.
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Of course the white guy is not going to admit it-lol But it's the truth.
I rarely notice skin color, or even physical beauty. I value intelligence, a mature outlook on life, and humor in a potential mate. It is my belief that many of those who date inter-racially have a similar outlook. Even many who have not dated inter-racially may share a similar outlook, but the fact that all of their mates are of the same ethnicity is a simple coincidence.
Why limit your potential partners based on the concentration of melanin in their skin?
"Johhny"-I didn't mean that in a negative way. What I meant was, it seems black women you've encountered so far, seem to be sheltered if they are telling you they were raised to be wary or scared of white men. That is information I have never been told by my family or friends. Do you live in a smaller town? Are there not many whites there? Maybe those particular black women don't get out much! I have traveled all over the States and several places overseas, and haven't known other black women I have come in contact with to be afraid of dating white men. Once, many years ago, a black girl I was stationed in the AF with, asked me what it was like to date white men, as if it were some sort of alien experience. Maybe to her, in a way, it was, but since it's so natural and second nature to me, I looked at her with surprise and aksed "what do you mean?" I told her it's just dating, the color of someone's skin does not affect their dating characteristics.
Hope that clears up my response!
My experiences have come mainly from women from the southeast and lower midwest. I've heard everything from them being expected to stay true to their roots to being told that white men are only interested in slave-rape fantasies. The most common theme was that white men won't ever respect them. Granted, these women didn't have objections to dating a white guy, but they had to overcome a lot of, shall we say...indoctrination. I only dated one woman who didn't have any hang-ups. Actually, she said she would only date white guys.
Out of my group of acquaintances (college students), the only white guys who were open to interracial dating were doing so to get their "yellow" or "black" belts. Most of the white dudes were open to dating lighter-skinned black, Persian, East Indian, and Arab girls, but few were open to dating East Asian women. Then again, most of the East Asian girls here aren't white-washed (strong ties to the homeland, into music and fashion from Asia, billingual) and the majority of them are together with men of their own race.
As for black males having a hard time dating and marrying women of other races... if that thought helps you sleep at night then all of the world to you.
If looks *supposedly* matter less to women, why does it seem to me at least, that women are less open to dating men of other races (or even those outside of their social circles) than men are? Do they buy into negative stereotypes, or do they worry more what they're peers/family might think? I think many still feel more threatened when their daughters/sisters etc date 'outside' the circle. Are just men just less picky because they have to be? I've heard quite a few women say they wouldn't date say Asians or Blacks (I think the whole idea of white women loving black men is exaggerated tbh), and while I've heard this among men they seem to appreciate females of all races in general (like myself).
edit: I should probably except most Asian women in western societies, who oftentimes prefer to date white men because of their perceived superiority/normality. Btw this isn't a rant, but an honest question.
Um, considering the number of white women with black children, I'd reassess your assumptions.
On second thought, you may have a point, I rarely see a black woman with a man of another race.
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If you didn't know already I should have mentioned I'm from Australia, so the situation might be different there. I wonder if American women in general are more open? I suppose I should have realised there would be large differences between the countries but I just assumed America was fairly similar.
I have met a few black women who said they were raised to be afraid of dating white men if not expressly forbidden. I'm curious to know if those are isolated incidents or if that's more common than not.
That is funny. I have heard/seen real examples of blacks telling black women and girls this. My dad has said nothing about it. My brothers tell me they don't care as long as he has a job and stuff.
I thought a relationship cae before marriage? So a woman is not trying to see if I'm relationship material? If someone is seeing if I'm marriage material then she has a screw loose
Considering your age... well most women after the age of 24 or so, and after having been through several different dating partners are able to size up a man before dating them as to whether or not they have potential as a long term romantic partner. Plus we see the torment our female friends go through with bad relationship experiences. So that's why most adult women are leery of dating any man that seems like a poor bet for being a serious boyfriend or husband.
Yes, at your age, most women will ponder if you are a good candidate to marry before dating you by scrutinizing your online dating profile and pre-dating phone conversations. And if you don't pass muster, then aren't going to waste their time by dating you even once.
Plus going on a bad date is a painful experience that no woman wants to go through. It's better to dine alone or with girlfriends than to spend time with a man that your gut feeling is telling you to run away from.
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I have traveled all over the States and several places overseas, and haven't known other black women I have come in contact with to be afraid of dating white men. Once, many years ago, a black girl I was stationed in the AF with, asked me what it was like to date white men, as if it were some sort of alien experience. Maybe to her, in a way, it was, but since it's so natural and second nature to me, I looked at her with surprise and aksed "what do you mean?" I told her it's just dating, the color of someone's skin does not affect their dating characteristics.
