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It is what people call the initial/beginning stages that can last months or years. After that women might consider doing something for their guy. I rather see nice gestures right off the bat from the beginning that being put on hold for a certain amount of time.
That’s right. That’s what I think when women say they take the initiative, do the asking, take a guy out, etc. which actually means MAKING the guy take the initiative, do the asking, etc. It seems to be what most women prefer to do. Or women may take the initiative to tell a man to ask her out “Heeey! You haven’t called me in a while!” kind of thing instead of her picking up the phone to take the initiative to call him and take him out. No hints, no indirect messages, no making him do something, etc. Simply calling him and something as simple as “Hey! You busy? No? there’s this place I am sure you will enjoy. Let me make a reservation. I’ll pick you up at X time. It’s on me…”
Most women just don’t.
Maybe there won’t be any more so called “rules” and girls will finally start to take the initiative and ask men out as much as men do.
Lol, I've never met a guy who likes me to take those types of initiatives that early on. Later on, they love it though, obviously. But I do make nice gestures from the beginning. I think I'm pleasant enough and I don't order the most expensive thing on the menu, unless he's an as* that I'm never planning to see again, which hasn't happened in 4 years. That and I dont play games, I'm pretty straight with guys about where I stand with them. I Think that's enough to ask in the beginning.
Lol, I've never met a guy who likes me to take those types of initiatives that early on. Later on, they love it though, obviously
You won’t know until you try. If you know guys will love it, why make them wait as they are put through beginning/initial stages? And just like everything, you’ll have success and failure. Guys go through that all the time. Later on after a man is put through the initial/beginning stages (months or years), maybe you’ll consider taking the initiative, right? Whatever rocks your boat.
People operate differently. I like a different kind of girl, different kind of customs, a bit different from what I see in the west. But that’s just me. We all have our preferences.
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I think I'm pleasant enough and I don't order the most expensive thing on the menu, unless he's an as* that I'm never planning to see again
Imagine that a guy thinks a girl is an ass and just shags her since he’s not planning to see her again, not nice, right?
Lol, I've never met a guy who likes me to take those types of initiatives that early on. Later on, they love it though, obviously. But I do make nice gestures from the beginning. I think I'm pleasant enough and I don't order the most expensive thing on the menu, unless he's an as* that I'm never planning to see again, which hasn't happened in 4 years. That and I dont play games, I'm pretty straight with guys about where I stand with them. I Think that's enough to ask in the beginning.
you know I've never worried what my date has ordered. I've always said "Order what you want, as much as you want." If a girl can eat, she should eat until full.
But when my dates order just a side salad, it kind of ticks me off. We both were OK on the date and time and where, and we both should be hungry. If you order a side salad, you make me look like an a** because it makes me look cheap or worse when I'm ordering the steak and everything else.
you know I've never worried what my date has ordered. I've always said "Order what you want, as much as you want." If a girl can eat, she should eat until full.
But when my dates order just a side salad, it kind of ticks me off. We both were OK on the date and time and where, and we both should be hungry. If you order a side salad, you make me look like an a** because it makes me look cheap or worse when I'm ordering the steak and everything else.
When girls take me out for dinner, I order what I feel like. I don't have a big appetite so its not like I order the biggest plate out there. I am in the middle or below when it comes to appetite. Don't want my girl to just order a glass of water either when I take her out. Just order what you like and enjoy. Why go home hungry when you can enjoy a nice dinner with someone?
When girls take me out for dinner, I order what I feel like. I don't have a big appetite so its not like I order the biggest plate out there. I am in the middle or below when it comes to appetite. Don't want my girl to just order a glass of water either when I take her out. Just order what you like and enjoy. Why go home hungry when you can enjoy a nice dinner with someone?
It's comparisons.
If a couple was taking in the scenery, and they saw me with this nice porterhouse, baked potato and a salad, then saw her with just a mini salad, what would you think?
I have no problem with her if they ordered a smaller, less expensive meal. The point is, is to eat and get full while getting to know someone, or to enjoy each others company while having a nice meal.
you know I've never worried what my date has ordered. I've always said "Order what you want, as much as you want." If a girl can eat, she should eat until full.
But when my dates order just a side salad, it kind of ticks me off. We both were OK on the date and time and where, and we both should be hungry. If you order a side salad, you make me look like an a** because it makes me look cheap or worse when I'm ordering the steak and everything else.
Make sure you both bring coupons and negotiate/haggle.
There is also the bestselling book "He's Just Not That Into You" that was authored by a man and woman. He advised that most men don't like being asked out, and that they will ask you if they're interested.
So ... even if some guy feels differently on this forum, you've got advice like that out there that's sold tons of copies.
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. Why go home hungry when you can enjoy a nice dinner with someone?
