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People who are "just friends" don't sleep with each other.
Oh please. Grow up. You're just upset because she hasn't publicly bestowed the title as "girlfriend" to you. So what? Is it that big a deal? You're acting like a silly little middle-schooler. You have a good relationship with her, don't F it up. Now go get a real problem that we can all help you out on.
She refers to me as well as his sister's boyfriend as "friend". She also introduces me to people using just my name. For example, "this is..." to which my boyfriend always follows up with "this is my girlfriend, ...". I guess the mom is a little bit in denial about her kids growing up. It doesn't bother me that much; in fact I find it amusing more than anything. Does anyone else have experience with this?
Could it be that perhaps she has met one too many so she doesn't think this one is serious?
To put it frankly, your boyfriend's mom's behavior seems rather tactless, emotionally-manipulative, if not somewhat cruel.
Not sure what her problem is?? Is there some particular reason, why she might really be inclined to dislike you?
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Originally Posted by 3divina
She refers to me as well as his sister's boyfriend as "friend". She also introduces me to people using just my name. For example, "this is..." to which my boyfriend always follows up with "this is my girlfriend, ...". I guess the mom is a little bit in denial about her kids growing up. It doesn't bother me that much; in fact I find it amusing more than anything. Does anyone else have experience with this?
Well, you know it's not personal because she does it to the sister's boyfriend too. So it's her own personal quirk, and I would view it as such. I'm not so much as introducing via titles. If my BF introduces me I don't expect to be "titled" my girlfriend. It's pretty obvious. But I'm older.
It could have been awkward: Hi this is Mikala, my sexually monagamous other half though we are not sure about committing to GF/BF, to the now Hi this is Mikala, my officially designated GF, which both of us have agreed to marrying, but we are not officially engaged, so do not introduce as Fiance/Fiancee.
Personally, I think it's because you're living together but not married or engaged yet. "Girlfriend" doesn't sound serious enough for a couple who lives together, but fiancee or wife doesn't fit the situation.
She's not undermining the relationship or subtly trying to say you don't matter, she's being tactful and polite.
Oh the bf/gf dilemma. I told my daughter (a serial dater) I didn't even want to MEET another "boyfriend" unless she had a ring on her finger that way I can avoid anything to do with this stuff. I got close to her first couple of bf's in the high school years because they were still kids after all, and I liked some of them and missed them when they were gone. I did have to meet the last one, but only 6 or 7 times, because it lasted over 2 years and they lived together for awhile after college, but I didn't go out of my way to introduce him to anyone, that was her job. And when they broke up I didn't feel a loss because I really hadn't invested anything in him.
I have a somewhat different issue with my daughter's boyfriend. He calls me Mom and also introduces himself as my son-in-law. I have never come in contact with anyone that just took it upon themselves to do this. Is this normal in current times, or am I the one that is making too much of it? He's been living with my daughter for 5 years.
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Is there some particular reason, why she might really be inclined to dislike you?
