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He wants to play the field and see what else is out there. I suggest that you do the same thing and stop trying to hold on to this relationship.
Aquariuses like to be free, but they also value friendship. If you cannot truely be platonic friends with him, then you should just let it go completely.
To the OP, there's really no point in being "just friends" IMO both of you are lying to yourselves and each other
do you really want to be "just friends"... no you don't, and you're lying
he is too
he might say "no sex" but he'll be hard up soon enough and a warm young body beside him, who listens, walks his dog with him on a cold night
yeah, he's going to hit that
even if he is an Aquarius
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
It just kills me to see young women giving themselves away like this and to have no standards, no expectations, no understanding of how much more they deserve
I dont think he it outright playing you, he was honest and told you he doesnt want a relationship.
I agree break all contact and move on though, stop initiating anything until if and when he decides he wants a relationship with you and then proves it by his actions.
I honestly believe what he says.. I know him better than any1, well apart from his parents.
I agree with the whole no contact, it is hard to say and do as he was a big part of my life and there hasnt been a week or so where we havnt talked. But im going to try my hardest and im not going to initiate contact at all and live my life.
LovesMountains - I dont give myself away, yes I may be young, 23 exact! But im quite an honest, loyal, safe girl. Its just very hard and I admit im trying to keep connections with him.
If he ever wants me, he will come back and yes It will be on my terms... If its meant to be its meant to be, right?
Im just scared :-(...
P.s Isnt it best to stay friends with an aquarian though? Also if he wasnt interested at all he would of been long gone...
I think you being friends with him is keeping you from moving on. You allready know that the relationship is over and there is no likelihood of success together.
I honestly believe what he says.. I know him better than any1, well apart from his parents.
I agree with the whole no contact, it is hard to say and do as he was a big part of my life and there hasnt been a week or so where we havnt talked. But im going to try my hardest and im not going to initiate contact at all and live my life.
LovesMountains - I dont give myself away, yes I may be young, 23 exact! But im quite an honest, loyal, safe girl. Its just very hard and I admit im trying to keep connections with him.
If he ever wants me, he will come back and yes It will be on my terms... If its meant to be its meant to be, right?
Im just scared :-(...
P.s Isnt it best to stay friends with an aquarian though? Also if he wasnt interested at all he would of been long gone...
I understand how scary it is , especially since you've been together a few years.
But he's been pretty clear with you, it's over for him.
When someone is not feeling it anymore they are just not feeling it - and nothing you can do will change that, because it's not about you or anything you've done "wrong".
Trying to "keep connections with him" in the hopes he'll come back to you is just not emotionally healthy or prudent. As sad as I know this breakup makes you, you have to hear what he is telling you and let him go.
I've always told my kids to look at it this way - when you quit holding on to something that is so obviously not meant to be yours, you free yourself up to be available when the person who IS meant to be yours comes along.
Hey guys im new here and would just like some advice really.
This might be a long post but its not a drag I promise and I appreciate any advice given :-)
Basically my ex broke up with me after nearly 2 years because he didnt want a relationship anymore, wanted to be single and do his own thing.
Now 4 months has passed and nothing has changed. We still talk, meet up, have sex, act like nothing has changed as he still calls me my nickname and leaves me kisses but he now doesnt think we should sleep with each other or meet up as much it will be hard. (Btw I have always initiated the sex and meeting up, not him) So I told him that I cant conintue to be friends with him as its too hard and I want more, its now my time to move on with my life.
So we spent our last night with each other and it was so nice, the next day when we left I got upset and he had tears in his eyes too and he told me to go as he didnt want me to see his was upset.
I was doing well and didnt contact him for about 4 days when he txtd me with 'its hard to not think of you and pretend you dont exist :-/' I didnt respond and thought I can do this and go NC...
A few days after this I got quite drunk and you guessed it I broke the No Contact and txtd him etc, I told him my feelings and what I thought and that I needed to know his feelings as I feel like just another one of his ex's he throws away and forgets. We met up and he told me he cares for me, still has feelings but just right now he doesnt want a relationship, doesnt want girls company and do his own thing. If he could he would just start seeing me again but he just doesnt want that commitment right now. He wants to continue being friends and email each other and meet up to take his dog for a walk etc.
I told him I wasnt sure as I was scared that 1. I wouldnt be able to move on properly and 2. he tells me he has met some1 so we cant talk anymore. That would be heartbreaking!
Anyway I sent him his txt after we met up: 'Thankyou for telling me what you did and your feelings. Honestly that is all I wanted. I really understand that you dont want a relationship but I just hope either you'd realise you cant not have me in your life and can't stand seeing me with another guy so you want me there or we start talking and seeing each other again and you decide you want me back. This is just how im feeling now :-/ and I just hope one day we re togther again as I feel you are the one for me xxxx'
He replied with this: 'Well if im honest, all that you hope for is true. Cuz like right now, if ever I wanted a relationship, I cant deny it would be you. You is pretty, adventurous, not a slag, decent job and I know you would be a good mother. And I also dont want you completely out of my life either :-) xxxx P.s would you miss my txts?'
Soo.. That was the nicest thing he has said to me in a while. He may be telling the truth but I just dont want him saying this just to keep me there so I dont go off with another guy and then him come back when he has had his fun.
I also dont know whether to keep with the emailing...
I want him back I really do but is no contacting him the best way to see if he actually starts missing me and realising he cant have the best of both worlds or continue as friends so we dont ever lose contact?
He really HASNT experienced he break up as I am still here and has had the benefits of a relationship.
Sorry this is so long. I do appreciate good advice and feedback, it will help alot!!!
Many Thanks
Becky.
Ok here is the best advice your going to get and it may be direct.
Leave him...He don't want you...he moved on.
Acting needy towards a man who don't want you is ridicules
Stop playing the victim and move on.
Dont text him..lose his number
Dont email him
Dont meet him anywhere anytime for anything
Stop all contact him with him..NOW..not a second later.
Ok here is the best advice your going to get and it may be direct.
Leave him...He don't want you...he moved on.
Acting needy towards a man who don't want you is ridicules
Stop playing the victim and move on.
Dont text him..lose his number
Dont email him
Dont meet him anywhere anytime for anything
Stop all contact him with him..NOW..not a second later.
Yeah, that's what needs to be done if she hopes for reconciliation, too. However it works out, it's for the best.
If he ever wants me, he will come back and yes It will be on my terms...
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No it won't. lol. It will be on his terms, and looks like it already is!
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