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I have this good international friend that I've known for a very long time. She is 99% congenial, but has been known to drop her friends because they offend her in some indirect manner.
About 2 years ago she stopped responding to all my emails. Initially I didn't even realize that she wasn't writing back until maybe a year had lapsed and several messages went unanswered. I thought her mail filter was putting my mail in the junk pile, so I wrote all her email addresses from all my different email accounts including ones that shouldn't be blocked. Still no response. Tried Skype but no response - she would log out shortly after I log on. Checked her FB (from somebody else's acct since I don't have one) and she was actively posting - nothing regarding personal hardships. So I kind of chalked it up to her not wanting to communicate with me.
Then I got a postcard from her yesterday saying she would love to hear from me. ??? Is it possible that the internet is such a comedy of errors that it could drop all the communication attempts? I can't think of anything I might have done to offend her. I guess I will have to snail mail her or something since that might be the only way to contact her reliably, but I'm already exhausted from my previous attempts and feel somewhat un-enthused. It's very easy for me to disengage from others.
Does she live in northern Japan? They've been alittle busy over there.
She probably fell in love and long distant "friends" naturally fell by the wayside.
Was your post card really personalized or something generic? Could be she's mass post carding and doesn't really remember who you are or that she stopped talking to you.
It was a photo + personalized handwriting / message. She said she wrote back awhile ago so from her POV I could have been the one who dropped the ball. I guess it doesn't really help to think too much into it.
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Originally Posted by funymann
Does she live in northern Japan? They've been alittle busy over there.
If you only write three or four times a year I can see how you might not notice answers to questions. It is hard for me to understand this and think she didn't get any of your email messages, and that she actually wrote back to you, but I don't suppose she has any reason to lie either. I would accept it at face value and write her a letter, you might find out more as you go along...
I decided to go for quick answer via email. I guess it was all email glitches after all... she said she responded to my emails and thought I was the one who wasn't responding because I was too busy. Freaking technology... can't trust it.
I think it's also our busy lifestyles today. Email is too easy, many people only bulk email and all they do is bulk forward email. It's easy to kind of forget who sent what.
It's not like the way they did in the past where letters were carefully written out. Today we are bombarded with emails, text messages.
I have this good international friend that I've known for a very long time. She is 99% congenial, but has been known to drop her friends because they offend her in some indirect manner.
About 2 years ago she stopped responding to all my emails. Initially I didn't even realize that she wasn't writing back until maybe a year had lapsed and several messages went unanswered. I thought her mail filter was putting my mail in the junk pile, so I wrote all her email addresses from all my different email accounts including ones that shouldn't be blocked. Still no response. Tried Skype but no response - she would log out shortly after I log on. Checked her FB (from somebody else's acct since I don't have one) and she was actively posting - nothing regarding personal hardships. So I kind of chalked it up to her not wanting to communicate with me.
Then I got a postcard from her yesterday saying she would love to hear from me. ??? Is it possible that the internet is such a comedy of errors that it could drop all the communication attempts? I can't think of anything I might have done to offend her. I guess I will have to snail mail her or something since that might be the only way to contact her reliably, but I'm already exhausted from my previous attempts and feel somewhat un-enthused. It's very easy for me to disengage from others.
That's so bizarre. Why would you spam somebody? Sounds like stalking almost. If she wants to contact you then let her contact you but definitely get a life (no offense).
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