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I have no say over her love life. I'll have huge say over who comes near my kids.
Nah, not gonna happen.
Thanks for the understanding.
Lucario..There is nothing wrong with dating when you end your relationship..Its who you bring around your kids..We as parents need to make sure we don't bring have anyone negative in our kids lives.
I never I dated anyone negative and brought them in my house to my kids.. I took the time to get to know them first, it's only human nature to want to have companionship with someone.
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Lucario..There is nothing wrong with dating when you end your relationship..Its who you bring around your kids..We as parents need to make sure we don't bring have anyone negative in our kids lives.
I never I dated negative in my house to my kids.. I took the time to get to know them first, it's only human nature to want to have companionship with someone.
Well, I don't want to be involved with anyone who wants me to put them at a higher priority than my kids.....and I think it's gonna be hard for me to date anyway. So I'm really not expecting to get anywhere on that front.
I have no say over her love life. I'll have huge say over who comes near my kids.
Maybe this isn't what you need to hear right now, but legally you do not have to approve every person she brings around your kids.
Nothing can stop you from expressing your concern but having said your say, she will do what she does. There's very little you can do legally unless the person she's dating has an arrest record or you have proof of dangerous behavior.
I'm speaking from experience. This is where forming some sort of peace with your ex will come in very useful, otherwise when you express concern she's just going to perceive it as an attempt to control her.
Well, I don't want to be involved with anyone who wants me to put them at a higher priority than my kids.....and I think it's gonna be hard for me to date anyway. So I'm really not expecting to get anywhere on that front.
Lucario your right..Anyone you date should know you have kids and they come first..They have to accept that..and if they can't they aren't worth even getting to know.
When you are ready you will know. Not everyone starts dating at the sametime.
I have no say over her love life. I'll have huge say over who comes near my kids.
I am sorry, you really won't. After the divorce--and even before--your wife can expose your kids to any douche she wants, and move them in with any slimeball she finds. And you have the same right. You have no legal recourse at all. Divorce agreements will not address this.
Trust me, I have been there. It is as aggravating as anything you can imagine to see your ex, the once-loving parent of your children, acting like a teenager and foisting some quasi-dad or -mom into the lives of your kids to feed their own egos, not caring how it affects anyone.
If you cannot live with that, I suggest you try again to repair your relationship.
Please read my first piece of advice. If you do not want to lose the love and respect of your kids, please follow it.
Well, I don't want to be involved with anyone who wants me to put them at a higher priority than my kids.....and I think it's gonna be hard for me to date anyway. So I'm really not expecting to get anywhere on that front.
Here is a story
My girls dad David..he had the nanny living with him, with her son, she would have one of the rooms downstairs at his house.
My girls dad is very cautious with our girls he's not the type to let anyone into his house especially strangers
I never get involved in his life, because I know he is a good dad and I have no worries with him
But one day his oldest daughter told me the nanny was sneaking in men she met on the internet didn't even know them a day.
The girls dad had no idea she was doing this, There is a door leading to the downstairs, I told my ex what I heard.
He was pissed he told her "you bring strange men into my house, when my girls are sleeping, he could kill you and me when we are sleeping and rape my girls."
Thats the only time I said something about my ex's house.
glad you have confidence in all he exposes your children to
must be nice to have a weekends off from motherhood
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After the divorce--and even before--your wife can expose your kids to any douche she wants, and move them in with any slimeball she finds. And you have the same right. You have no legal recourse at all. Divorce agreements will not address this.
