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I'm a NYC street kind of a guy with the gift of gab. I can walk into a place as a complete stranger and make everybody in the place laugh. Me getting intense or nervous on a first meeting is the same as seeing a game of volleyball being played over at Yankee Stadium.
I wasn't intense. In fact I never get intense at these meetings. I'm about the calmest, most relaxed guy out there. I give women the feeling that they've known me for a very long time. Some who know me think that's the problem. Relaxed feelings of familarity don't spark off chemistry.
Well, I have to tell you that you definitely come off uber-intense and sometimes a little "preemptively" accusatory in what you write on these forums...so even if you *think* you come off relaxed, you could be wrong.
I'm here to tell you that gauging the size of a woman's pupils just can not happen casually and that if anything, it would freak most people out, especially if it were on a first or second date. Blue eyes or not, most people wouldn't consciously note the actual comparative size of the pupil unless they were really digging to try to find clues...and no matter how you try to hide such a thing, it does show and it is very uncomfortable for the other person. It gives her (or him...whomever) a "run!" instinct.
There's also a huge difference between relaxed and familiar. If you're acting *too* familiar in somewhat "off" ways it could put someone off (a male friend, a female hopefully girlfriend, anyone). ETA: Did you not tell us recently that you dress women down for not being attracted to you, that you make them feel guilty enough to not be able to look you in the eye and that eventually you go so far into it and for so long that they get angry in self-defense? I don't really think this sounds calm or relaxed. I'm sorry. And (clearing throat to be understood here) did we not pretty much all say that your general attitude shows? And didn't you say "No, no, no it doesn't!" and now you're saying yet another woman turned and ran?
You *do* have problems relating to women. You should work on that a little before you start dating so you have a better chance at having good experiences.
I'm a NYC street kind of a guy with the gift of gab. I can walk into a place as a complete stranger and make everybody in the place laugh. Me getting intense or nervous on a first meeting is the same as seeing a game of volleyball being played over at Yankee Stadium.
Ain't happening any time soon.
(sigh) (shaking head) Okay, then, Walt. You keep doing what you're doing and see if the consistently unsatisfying results ever change. Good luck and happy dating.
Sorry. I'm very poor at reading comprehension too.
Forget the "too".
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Originally Posted by WaltHowe
I wasn't intense. In fact I never get intense at these meetings. I'm about the calmest, most relaxed guy out there. I give women the feeling that they've known me for a very long time. Some who know me think that's the problem. Relaxed feelings of familarity don't spark off chemistry.
Ah a healthy ego. Maybe too much, verging on the egotistical.
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Originally Posted by WaltHowe
From her profile
What are you looking for in a partner?
SOME BODY WHO IS INTENSE AND WOULD LIKE TO SPEND TIME DOING THINGS TOGETHER I'd just like to add...
PLEASE BE INTERESTED AND NOT SOMEBODY WHO TALKS FOR A COUPLE OF TIMES AND THEM DISAPEARS
She definitely worded this rather badly but you certainly lived up the expectation.
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Originally Posted by WaltHowe
I'm a NYC street kind of a guy with the gift of gab. I can walk into a place as a complete stranger and make everybody in the place laugh. Me getting intense or nervous on a first meeting is the same as seeing a game of volleyball being played over at Yankee Stadium.
Ain't happening any time soon.
Since you profess to have so such charisma, why are you posting on a relationship forum about, "What's It Mean"? where one date is concerned? Sounds like you're very self-confident and don't need any peeps to throw advice your way. Sounds to me like you know you're the man.
And, just for the heck of it, what DOES, "What's It Mean?" mean? The way you wrote it translates grammatically to, "What Is It Mean?" You maybe meant to say, "What does it mean?"
Know what, WaltHowe? You seem like a smart young man. Use the internet to learn and drop the attitude. There are many on this forum and on many other forums with way more experience about life in general who'd be more than happy to talk to you and share things with you.
You have to sift the wheat from the chaff but that's up to you. Think about it and I really do wish you all the best.
Well, I have to tell you that you definitely come off uber-intense and sometimes a little "preemptively" accusatory in what you write on these forums...so even if you *think* you come off relaxed, you could be wrong.
I'm here to tell you that gauging the size of a woman's pupils just can not happen casually and that if anything, it would freak most people out, especially if it were on a first or second date. Blue eyes or not, most people wouldn't consciously note the actual comparative size of the pupil unless they were really digging to try to find clues...and no matter how you try to hide such a thing, it does show and it is very uncomfortable for the other person. It gives her (or him...whomever) a "run!" instinct.
There's also a huge difference between relaxed and familiar. If you're acting *too* familiar in somewhat "off" ways it could put someone off (a male friend, a female hopefully girlfriend, anyone). ETA: Did you not tell us recently that you dress women down for not being attracted to you, that you make them feel guilty enough to not be able to look you in the eye and that eventually you go so far into it and for so long that they get angry in self-defense? I don't really think this sounds calm or relaxed. I'm sorry. And (clearing throat to be understood here) did we not pretty much all say that your general attitude shows? And didn't you say "No, no, no it doesn't!" and now you're saying yet another woman turned and ran?
You *do* have problems relating to women. You should work on that a little before you start dating so you have a better chance at having good experiences.
There's my internet personality, there's my real life personality and THEN there's my personality on THIS site so it doesn't really matter of course but truthfully I don't come off as intense with a woman on a date, I come off relaxed, maybe TOO relaxed.
Number two, noticing the size of pupils is as natural as me noticing say whether or not you are smiling at say the joke I just made to you. I just glance casually and notice the size without my expression changing. This is easy. Anybody can do it.
Number three, I act relaxed but the feel people get off me is that of "familiar" as in like you've known me a long time.
Number four: I dress the rejecting woman down AFTER she rejects me, certainly not before she rejects me. HEYWADDYATHINK?
(sigh) (shaking head) Okay, then, Walt. You keep doing what you're doing and see if the consistently unsatisfying results ever change. Good luck and happy dating.
And be somebody else? Girlfriend, you'd be the first one to chastise me for being phony.
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