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In today's society, young adults (male and female alike) are bombarded with images of hyper-intimate situations, everywhere from television to movies to (perhaps most deplorably of all) the widespread smut content available on the Internet. Which would naturally explain the contemporary, more liberalized attitudes and norms regarding physical intimacy in general, as opposed to say the standards of 30-40 or more years ago.
My question is, if you were to take a hypothetical young adult female, say about 24 years old or so, who has by choice fully-sustained her own virginity, and who hasn't been exposed to the more prurient modern intimacy standards (i.e., she's never "made out", and never even been undressed for or touched intimately, by a member of the opposite gender, and has had very few, if any, boyfriends): how, if at all, does that affect her basic personality? And especially regarding her more conventional female peers, who are much more likely to have experienced all and more, of the above? Remember, this hypothetical female example is someone who was likely never exposed to any intimacy beyond just kissing, if that.
Do you think this would tend to make her more likely to be rejected by her same-gender peers? How would it affect her relations with her male peers, both romantically and non-romantically? Would it tend to make her more soft-spoken, more timid or shy, or otherwise adversely affect her self-esteem?
But essentially, how do you think a girl's being virtually 100% fully innocent and pure, in terms of intimate relations, affect her inherent personality, if at all?
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 05-16-2011 at 12:07 PM..
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I don't think it changes the person personality but it does limit them to their peers both male and female. For them to stay true to themselves, they must find groups of people both female and male that think the same way they do about sexual matters.
Not true but the majority of people would think that of those type of people. That's why they must be around people like themselves because they are an oddity in modern society.
I don't think it changes the person personality but it does limit them to their peers both male and female. For them to stay true to themselves, they must find groups of people both female and male that think the same way they do about sexual matters.
Thx for your valuable thoughts / comments there donie
I actually know someone (not super-closely, just a friend of a friend) who fits the description in my OP, to a tee. All the criteria -- she's between a 9-10 in looks, but never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, 100% virginal. (Of course, her standards in guys are somewhat unrealistic, IMO, because she's literally looking for the perfect guy -- 9-10 in looks, 6 feet tall, etc. etc.)
And no, I am not romantically interested in her, just in case that's what anyone was thinking
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 05-16-2011 at 12:29 PM..
Reason: Corrections
I have a friend who's 35 and still a virgin. We talk about relationships some, and I respect her decision to live her life as she sees fit. I don't know that having sex or not affects one's personality as much as affects her life experience. You wouldn't expect a non-skier to understand about skiing, and you wouldn't talk about Mad Men to someone who doesn't watch the show.
Thx for your valuable thoughts / comments there donie
I actually know someone (not super-closely, just friend of a friend) who fits the description in my OP, to a tee. All the criteria -- she's between a 9-10 in looks, but never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, 100% virginal. (Of course, her standards in guys is somewhat unrealistic, IMO, because she's looking for the perfect guy -- 9-10 in looks, 6 feet tall, etc. etc.)
And no, I am not romantically interested in her, just in case that's what anyone was thinking
Well, she sounds like she's setting herself up for failure. Maybe there is something in her that is rejecting men for safety or security reasons and she doesn't realize it.
I'm thinking this thread will go the same way as all the OPs other virgin threads
C'mon, Djuna... Everybody's allowed to dream of winning them all!
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