What should I do? (girlfriends, kissing, calling, friends)
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If I read some of her posts correctly, she feels like she REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY loves him, she's already emotional, she's probably going to go through with it with this guy, and regret it much later, especially if the guy up and leaves her.
Dump this guy. Wait for the right one to come along, one who will give love no matter how long the relationship goes without sex. Hell, sex shouldn't be the reason you love someone anyway.
Why don't we get a "gentleman's" view on this topic. It would be interesting to hear what "GENTLEMEN" think about the situation. Me? Personally? I think she should have broke it off with the guy the very minute he confessed to having a girlfriend. The first "off again" episode should have been the end. He DID split up with her..I"m sure, just long enough to get laid, then back to her he went again...scratching and panting at the door. His ultimate goal is to pop her cherry. Unfortunately, there was something about her that kept her opening the door when he'd return. Some people just have an affinity for strays I guess.
Of course, we are serious. No one, man or woman, should have sex if they don't want to. It is manipulation to try to guilt someone into doing something they don't want to do. He should leave, if he can't wait. She is better off without him.
Amazing that some here are having a hard time grasping this very basic, adult concept
Of course, we are serious. No one, man or woman, should have sex if they don't want to. It is manipulation to try to guilt someone into doing something they don't want to do. He should leave, if he can't wait. She is better off without him.
A guy that age that is sexually active is most likely not going to hang around for 9 sexless months with someone unless they are getting it on the side. Or if they were just absolutely head over heels in love, which does not seem to be the case here at all. My guess is that he was hanging around trying to see if he could take your virginity and got tired of waiting so he tried to force the issue.
No big loss, he sounds like a big ahole. If he knew you a virgin at the beginning of the relationship and that it was important to you, then he should have made the decision at that time.
I agree. I have a friend who was a virgin for a long time. She was dating this guy whom everyone else on the planet could see was just a smooth talker. She had a decent job and a car, and he didn't, for starters. We used to all bowl together, and he would call her at the alley (pre-cell-phone days) to "just say hello". To everyone else, he was just making sure she was THERE so he could go about his other business.
Of course he was screwing around with other women, and it turned out he had a big-time coke habit, too.
Let him leave. I know it will hurt you really bad but if he is that demanding now then later on it will only get worse.
Get someone that has your same views and respects your wishes.
Please don't give in to this selfish guy. He will disappoint you really bad. I can even see him leaving you AFTER you let him have sex with you.
Cherish your virginity. There are guys out there that will respect you and even wait till marriage. Find one of those guys.
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Excellent advice in the post above, as is much of the advice from the other posters on this thread. If you feel strongly about waiting until *you* feel it's the right time for *you*, you have every right to feel that way, and he is being totally disrespectful of your beliefs if /he can't accept of understand that, in my humble opinion.
He said he's been skipping work for three weeks and he can't do it anymore. He said we are not really helping each other by seeing each other. He said he can't place me at first place and he has to place his work first now (by flirting/looking for sex with other girls). Two days after we stopped seeing each other, he already met up with someone. He went out three times with her, even though I was crying so hard and telling him it really bothered me. He still went to see her anyways. Then now he told me the girl he was seeing was actually only leading him on, she was a lesbian. He told me I need to make up my mind. He said whether he deserves sex or not, I should let him know.
Oh shush, you can get a disease with ANYONE whose been sexually active. The difference is most men wouldn't wait 9 months for a chick. You're being ridiculous.
And if i'm reading the thread he DID walk away. the guy has done everything right in my eyes so far. I'm surprised he was honest enough to give her a chance. Most dudes woulda dumped her and not said why.
If she doesn't trust him. Why are you blaming him, he's ready, she's not...why is she complaining then, she shoulda ended the relationship. She says she "loves" him but she doesn't act like it. I'd put it all on the line too if I liked her.
You are demonizing the guy for being honest. What is wrong with the world? he told her he had a gf, he told her he had an open relationship, he told her he wanted sex.
How is he waiting for 9 months when the first four months he was in a relationship (a sexual one) with ANOTHER GIRL, huh???!!!!!! Then how can you call that waiting when he had sex with another woman at the end of December? And how do you call that waiting when he keeps flirting around even he's not having sex????!!!!!!!!!!!
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