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Old 05-18-2011, 11:27 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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CPS for the sake of the child first. Then DNA, then seek custody if you're capable and deemed fit to raise a child. If you keep doing everything bassackwards you'll achieve nothing.

 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:30 AM
 
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So i never got DNA test because i didn't want to hurt her feelings. She wants to go out and have fun but leaves the baby with me. She takes drugs illicit drugs and hang out with dodgy drug dealers. She was a gutter rat before i dated her and now after she gave birth she is still the same. Her neighbor was banging her and she was giggling.


Now she tells me to EFF off and not come back because she wants the life of a tramp. She said if i try to take the kid she will call the cops and say I molested my own kid. She told me to go and hang myself.

And people wonder why father kills the whole family and then himself.
Do you get off on feeling sorry for yourself? Are you proud of being a martyr?

Stand up for yourself and get a DNA test. Who gives a F if it makes her feel bad. Or if you want to keep the child you'd better grow up fast, right now it sounds like that poor child needs to be put in the hands of an adult.
 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:38 AM
 
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CPS for the sake of the child first. Then DNA, then seek custody if you're capable and deemed fit to raise a child. If you keep doing everything bassackwards you'll achieve nothing.
I think the opposite order is better. Determine parentage and then act.

If it's not your child, your range of maneuver decreases a great deal, essentially limited to calling CPS. If it is your child, you can file for immediate custody. Because it's a good deal harder to get your child out of the CPS system than it would be to run a discreet paternity test and cool your heels for 3-5 days.
 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:39 AM
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Location: Decatur, GA
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dna dna dna!!!!!!!!!!!!!
do not feed!!
 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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This is sad.

Please for the childs sake, look into your rights as a father. Even if you are not the biological father, atleast care for the baby long enough to find him something better.

I don't mean to be rude but you need to man up and start thinking about the kids best interest. What is more imporant, a very unhealthy relationship with a very healthy person or a child who didn't ask to be here who has a whole life ahead of him?

You should drop this girl like a bad habit, in my opinion.
 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:51 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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DNA test indeed..The child needs stability if he/she is to have a chance for a future. The child is innocent and needs to be protected. Many, many children grow up in bad environments and have their futures cut short. pain, drugs and heartache will harm a child in the worst way. Saw many kids growing up in similar situations, and they went on to lead lives of addictions, violence and bad things themselves..If they made it at all.

Best of luck, and if the child is yours cherish them. It will not be easy...But you can make a difference.
 
Old 05-18-2011, 11:57 AM
 
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I think the opposite order is better. Determine parentage and then act.

If it's not your child, your range of maneuver decreases a great deal, essentially limited to calling CPS. If it is your child, you can file for immediate custody. Because it's a good deal harder to get your child out of the CPS system than it would be to run a discreet paternity test and cool your heels for 3-5 days.
Child of mine or not, this child needs to be taken away from her ASAP.

I agree with STT, call CPS right now!
 
Old 05-18-2011, 12:00 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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CPS for the sake of the child first. Then DNA, then seek custody if you're capable and deemed fit to raise a child. If you keep doing everything bassackwards you'll achieve nothing.
I agree. The safety of the child is the priority and all it takes in an anonymous call to CPS to send out someone out to investigate her. Then get yourself together. If you are dating gutter rats, you can't be doing all that great for yourself or else you're really bored.

Get DNA tested to determine paternity and seek custody but only if you are mentally and financially ready.
 
Old 05-18-2011, 12:03 PM
 
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Even if the child is not yours it needs to be out of that environment. Do the kid a favor and call the child protection services right now. Dont wait another minute before something horrible does happen to the child. Maybe they will help you prove paternity.

KEEP PANTS FIRMLY ZIPPED AT ALL TIMES. IT'S JUST NOT WORTH IT, IS IT?????????
 
Old 05-18-2011, 12:06 PM
 
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Child of mine or not, this child needs to be taken away from her ASAP.

I agree with STT, call CPS right now!
Fine. Here's a better solution: Offer to babysit the child for a few days while you wait for the paternity test. She'll be delighted to have some free time and the child will be safe. Problem solved.

Only then do you call CPS if it's not yours. Otherwise, you're dealing with an enormous legal hassle involved in getting your child out of the system.
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